lydamorehouse: (ichigo freaked)
 I was feeling pretty smart that I remembered that today was "What are you reading Wednesday," but then I popped on here only to discover that the LAST time I posted was LAST Wednesday. Well, given that, I think I will forgo the list of reading material and tell you, instead, about my life. 

Last Saturday was Imbolc (also known as Saint Brigit's Day) and Sunday was Groundhog's Day, so, of course, Shawn and I decided to have a Sunday High Tea. As some of you may remember, last year, for her birthday, I gave Shawn a trip to the Saint Paul Hotel's fancy dress high tea. We had also been hoping to attend a tea ceremony at the Como Conservatory's Japanese garden, but, I had neglected to remember that Shawn's knees were failing, so we ended up canceling that. As part of her "year of tea" last year, I bought Shawn a subscription to a very genteel magazine called Tea Time, which literally is just recipes for fancy tea cakes and sandwiches and pretty images of people's tea sets. So, we decided to make a ham salad recipe from one of her Tea Time issues which we spread on bagette slices...


fancy ham salad sandwiches
Image: mostly these kind of look like mayonaise-covered dog food? But they were insanely deliciously and curry-flavored.

For me, the real star of the show, however, were the raspberry filled tartlets. In comparison to a lot of the very picky and time-consuming recipes I have made for our various teas over the years, the tarlets (and the ham salad, honestly,) were shockingly easy. Like, the the biggest thing to making the tarlets look good? Owning a tartlet pan. Which, OF COURSE, we do. 


tartlets in a fancy tray
Image: Raspberry tartlets on top, lemon poppy seed pound cake on the bottom tray.

I just ate the very last leftover of the tartlets this morning. They're such an oddly enchanting "mouth feel" because the bottom is philo and the top is more like a soft muffin. In-between is a generous spoonful of raspberry jam. So they're kind of "springy" and chewy on your teeth? It's odd, but, as I can personally attest, weirdly addictive.

Surprisingly easy to make given how fancy they look, too.

Yeah, so, this is how we're surviving the state capture of the United States by a criminally dangerous South African immigrant that I would sincerely like to see rounded up and deported. If we could just send him to Guantanamo instead, I dunno, innocent children that would be fantastic. Weird how no one has thought to send ICE agents into the Treasury Office. That would have been my first phone call.

My next would be to a nice, young Italian man....

But, I digress. 

In other news, I been running some absoluely soul-rejuvinating TTRPGs. Last night, my Thirsty Sword Lesbians solved an interdimensional-dimensional rift and a yakuza turf war with a bit of flirting and some donuts. Ah... I mean, my shoulders just dropped two notches TYPING that. Last night, I was just grinning happily for a couple of hours post-game.

Last Saturday, my Dungeon & Dragons party rescued a dozen Dwarven miners from an as of yet unmet Infernal foe. A little less universally satisfying, but on its way, and to be fair, we had a thrilling marketplace heist pulled of by none-other-than our party's PALADIN. I am still laughing about that. Good times.

 So, we take it all one day at a time.

How are you doing?

lydamorehouse: use for Star Trek RPG (star trek)
 Because I'm NOT going to go into it with my role-playing group, I'm going to take a moment to rant here.

First off, if you've never heard of safety tools in TTRPGs, there is a really lovely FREE resource here: https://www.drivethrurpg.com/en/product/288535/consent-in-gaming. The booklet is short, but really valuable and it comes with a free consent form that's PDF formfillable. 

I know that a lot of people take issue with the idea that consent and saftey have become "codified" in RPGs. I'm here to tell you that if you actually read the free resource I direct you to, you will see that 1) they are not, and 2) they were never intended to be. Safety is a thing that needs to be flexible, individual, and organic--as well as generally part of the culture of a table--to function as intended. If your GM has built in good communication and trust from the start, it's absoluely NOT REQUIRED that every table use them. But, like if you do need them, it's important to actually UNDERSTAND the point of how and why and what best practices look like. An open table is great, but --

There also needs to be space for anonimity.

One of my groups is currently sharing a consent form on an Excel spreedsheet. Seems like a decent solution, in some ways, so that everyone's answer can be kept all together, right? Well, I mean, yes, if it's all just performative and provided there isn't anything truly sensitive that someone might not actually want the entire group to know.

Like, I think most of my friend group knows WHY I do not want storylines that involve stillbirth or endangered pregnancies, but I also sometimes am not feeling up to reliving my loss to explain to people who don't. When you have a private form, there is usually space for the reply to include specific information about what exactly triggers you and what doesn't in a way that doesn't have to involve the entire table being involved, if you don't want that. Like, sometimes I will still cry when I talk about Ella? And, maybe I'm at a new table where I'd rather not have someone's first impression of me be as a bawling mess... 

But even on a shared form, if I wanted to actually give the GM more detail, it would have to be written as "Lyda would like to not have this paricular scenario for these reasons." Or, I just have to take a risk that the GM understands my specific triggers, which, honestly, still sometimes includes someone saying "stat!" in an emergency medical situation EVEN OUT OF THE CONTEXT OF A PREGNANCY. 

Because that's how Shawn and I first learned that Ella was dead.

But, there's no space to have a private conversation where I could spell out some of my specific needs on a form shared with everyone.

Also, a lot of consent forms are designed (including the one that is currently being shared) to include things that you would enthusiastically consent to. I went ahead and checked the things I actually enjoy seeing played out in fiction, but... like, these are ALSO the sorts of things I would like to be able to explain privately. Because just writing "Slavery, Yay!" or "Racism, Yay!" kind of actually feels gross out of context, when what I mean is "in the context of ancient Rome and fantasy settings therein" or "like between elves and orcs."

But, let's be honest. 

I'm not at all surprised to discover a deep misunderstanding how to actually USE safety tools from this particular individual. 

We've played this game for seven years and this is our first introduction to Lines and Veils/Consent at all. Moreover, I fully expect this particular GM to use this consent form as a weapon, as in "You didn't mark it! You are not allowed to feel differently in a different context or at a later date!!"

He has already rules-lawyered my use of an X-Card to express a need to back away from something. He insisted to me both in public (in an email) and in a private message that I misused X-Card and Lines and Veils is the MORE CORRECT term.  Thanks for taking the time to scold my use of language when what I am expressing is "ouch," but whatever. That already made it perfectly clear to me that  if I don't use the right term my feelings are not valid and will not be addressed. 

But, I understand that empathy is a sin now.

What else should I even expect of people in a world like this?
lydamorehouse: (Default)
 My parents noted that I left the car story on a cliffhanger. 

So hang no more!

Car is stil not fixed. I have a temporary solution, which was always the temporary solution, and that's currently how we are getting around. I need to try to make an appointment somewhere else, but I have failed to have the appropriate number of spoons to do it. It's even worse, as it's one of those situations where I have several really good recommendations, I just haven't felt up to making the call to see when/if I can get in.

My spoons have been low this whole last week because I've been really rather broken over yet-another-drama in one of my roleplaying games. It's apparently surprisingly difficult for people to be kind and empathetic when I'm not the one doing the emotional intelligence gathering and heavy-lifting, I guess? It shouldn't be a surprise, after all this time, but here we are. I'm feeling fully wrecked over something that is ultimately very, very, very, VERY stupid* and not worth this much of my time or energy.

I've lost a full week and at least one friendship to it and that's just dumb.

On the flipside, my players pulled off an amazing conclusion to a D&D mini-campaign on Saturday and I spent a full twelve hours HIGH on the experience of that. We laughed, we cried, we solved not one, but THREE (well, two and a half, as per D&D one of the victims was revivified!) murders!  It really felt exactly like what a good gaming session should feel like. It was not quite enough for them all to level up next time, but they were handsomely rewarded and avoided starting a full-on Seelie/UnSeelie Fey War.

What a f*cking amazing game. 

So, there is hope, my friends. There is always hope.

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*The fact that this is all happening over a game that should be fun is stupid, to be clear. Not the problem.
lydamorehouse: (Default)
 But the good news is that Shawn's recovery is proceeding apace. 

On Wednesday, she had her two week check-in with Dr. Herseth, the knee surgeon. Just even GETTING to these appointments is kind of its own challenge. Shawn officially graduated to a cane on Monday (according to her physical therapist), so that made some of our manuevering a LITTLE easier. But, there's just a lot of rigamarole to do to get her, her cane, and the walker (which we took in case she felt unsteady) into the car and then to get her, her cane, etc., deposited at the front door of the clinic. I still have to park, get the ticket, etc., and get to her.... and I swear to god that I walk ten steps to her one. 

Regardless, we had a good appointment. We were first seen by Dr. Herseth's assistant, Ryan. Ryan removed the bandage that Shawn's been wearing since the surgery (impregnated with SILVER to repell werewolves!) This was the first time we got a good look at her scar. We both remarked at how neat the stitches were. Ryan perked up and said, "Oh, be sure to tell Dr. Herseth that." I asked, "Why? Does he not get a lot of compliments?" Ryan smirked and said, "No. He doesn't do the closing. I do!"

Ryan checked Shawn ability to straighten her leg (she was close to 1 or 2 degrees, with 0 being perfectly straight). This was up even from Monday, when the physical therapist officially measured her at 4. Then he checked her ability to bend her knee. She was at 128 degrees.  Later, when the doctor redid these tests he, being very Minnesotan, raised his eyebrows, paused, and then drawled, "Well. I was going to tell you that you should be working to make that 90 degrees, but I guess you're ready for more advanced goals." <--for my out-of-state readers: THIS is a Minnesotan doctor losing his ABSOLUTE SH*T over how good Shawn is doing, just to be clear.

On Monday, the physical therapist apparently said to Shawn, "I wouldn't go posting your flex of 128 degrees on social media... unless you want your car keyed."

Dr. Herseth said her knee looked like it was more like it was in week three or even four, not two. 

This would be cause for celebration, but Shawn is having really intense nerve pain. Dr. Herseth's only response was, "Yep. That's going to happen. It will get better." He also agreed that the only real solution for it at the moment was continued (if judicious) use of oxycodone. Shawn very much would like to get off the oxy, but, on the other hand, because of all of her other medications, she really can't take very many other drugs for pain.  She is keeping very careful track of when and how much she takes, however. I don't think she's a big risk for addiction. 

For myself, I've been very slowly getting back to normal. Mason came home on Monday. He's technically in the middle of finals week, but he only has papers due (no tests), so he decided to come home early for the holidays to help out.

With Mason around, I felt comfortable leaving Shawn last night to go to Wyrdsmiths. We are trying to meet in-person again (with limited success.) Even though a number of people insisted that in-person meetings were THE BEST and they absolutely hated how isolated they continued to feel on Zoom... we're lucky to get half the group to even show up when we host in-person. I feel pretty f*cking vindicated that I insisted that we keep our second meeting of the month on Zoom because sometimes that's the only one everyone shows up to. I mean, I get it? I am very aware that it is a pain in the butt to leave the comfort of your own home, in the dark, on a Thursday night, in the middle of winter, drive the car halfway across town, sit around for several hours and then have drive home, in the dark, in the winter. THIS WAS WHY I DIDN'T WANT TO CHANGE IN THE FIRST PLACE. I knew we'd have attrition! Yet, even though I was fully against returning in-person, I have dragged my sorry a$$ to each and every one of these in-person meetings. I find it deeply ironic that the people who insisted it was so f-ing necessary for their mental health that we do this, can't seem to show up to a single one. 

/rant

Moving on.

Tomorrow, I have not one, but two gaming sessions planned. Saturday morning, I'm gathering the Reprised Drunk Girls* for my attempt at a manor house mystery D&D session. We'll see how that goes. As noted often, I'm a novice GM and a murder mystery can be kind of complex. Though really, if my plans fail and the party quickly sees through what I think are oh-so-clever clues, the whole thing just becomes whack-a-mole and we roll for initiative, as it were. Currently, I am MOSTLY prepared. The manor house and all its clues are set (that part has been done for months), but there are still a couple of out-building maps that don't yet have potential monsters. And with this crew? I need to be prepared in case they just decide to leave the main building and wander the grounds.

Plus, I had to add an oubliette once they decided to capture the Green Knight instead of killing him. I'd complain, but honestly that's the part of GMing that I like the best. 

Then, at 7pm on Saturday, I will be a player in our ongoing Star Trek campaign. My flighty former-Chief Science Officer has accepted a promotion to XO and, frankly, I am uncertain if he is actually up to the shift to command staff. I mean, technically as Chief Science Officer he was always part of the senior staff, but XO is a whole new ballgame for Ro. I, personally, have been prepping for this by watching WWII submarine movies and practicing shouting things like "all hands on deck!" "man overboard!" and "what's the scuttlebutt?!" I'm pretty sure that's also about as much as my character knows about how to lead a starship crew, so WHAT COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG?
lydamorehouse: (nic & coffee)
 Egads, I've been terrible about keeping up here.

To be fair to me, I've been deep in RPG game planning as an antidote for the continual storm of terrible news from the Worst Timeline. As many of you know, I've recently taken the plunge, moving from player to game master. I still play in plenty of games! However, much like my move from reader to writer, I have discovered that if I want a certain type of game, I might just have to run it myself.  This keeps me occupied to the point of distraction, honestly.  I do have to watch my obsessive tendencies, a bit. Given my druthers I'd almost always rather play or plan an RPG than almost anything else.

Otherwise, I had a birthday on Monday.

Shawn typically takes the day off work for my birthday, so we were able to go together to enjoy some daytime shopping, which was nice. Specifically, I wanted to go to Barnes & Noble to windowshop the manga section there and then head off for what is becoming an annual birthday event, shopping for fabric at S. R. Harris.  It doesn't make sense to catalogue the fabrics I got. Just imagine a nice pile of things that appealed to me--bright and cheery solids and interesting and unusual patterns. To be fair, the big excitment of going to S. R. Harris the dizzying array of choices and the fact that they removed biggest barrier to enjoying fabric shopping for me: waiting in line for your fabric to be cut.  You are allowed to cut your own up to four yards. This always makes me feel like a rogue, a ciminal... like I'm getting AWAY with something.

But, since today is "What Are You Reading Wednesday?" I will go ahead and bore you with the details of that shopping trip to B&N.

I only bought a couple of manga from artists that I really want to make sure to support. First, I bought the official fourth volume four of The Summer Hikaru Died.   The way I introduced this series to the readers of my manga review site was, "The Summer Hikaru Died is a poignant, deeply sublimated, barely acknowledged (but definitely queer) love story between a boy and… the monster that returned in the body of his dead friend. A new genre, perhaps? Horror Romance or Romance Horror?" It's not Chuck Tingle and company's "monster f*ckers." This is love mixed with horror--kind of a perfect coming out queer metaphor, perhaps. It's so, so good. If you want to read my spoiler-heavy review of the first volume, you can find it here: https://mangakast.wordpress.com/2024/03/06/hikaru-ga-shinda-natsu-the-summer-hikaru-died-by-mokumoku-rei/

I also picked up I Think Our Son is Gay, volume 5. I described this one to a friend as "I Think Our Son is Gay is, as you might imagine from the title, a manga about a mother coming to terms (sort of side-by-side with the son who is coming out to himself) that her kid is gay. What I love about this manga is that it reads very true to life. There are moments when the son is clearly experiencing his own homophobia and backing away from his own truth and mom is sometimes ahead of him in this area, and visa versa. Though unlike the kid, mom has a part time job in a bakery and has a friendly adult gay man as a colleague who she sometimes works up the nerve to ask questions.  Dad is sort of set up as the antagonist, but he's also literally only around every so often as he has a job that keeps him away from home for months at a time. Dad doesn't mean to not get it, but he's there to represent the usual attitudes towards gay stuff, if you know what I mean?"  Again, if you're interested in my review of the first volume, it's here: https://mangakast.wordpress.com/tag/uchi-no-musuko-wa-tabun-gay/

Otherwise, Shawn got me a couple of blank notebooks (technically "dot-lined") from one of my favorite notebook makers, Congative Surplus. IF I HAD ANY BIRTHDAY MONEY LEFT, I would totally pick-up one or two of their new "Dark Analysis" notebooks that have black paper and these insanely cool covers: https://cognitive-surplus.com/collections/dark-analysis.  Holy crap, these are cool!

Anyway. I also always request that Shawn make my absolutely favorite cake, which is a cranberry upside down cake. The only trauma with this particular recipe is that for some reason Shawn's success rate with it is 50/50. I am happy to reort that this year it was a complete success. In fact, after I finish writing this to you all, I'm going to go have one of the last pieces left for an afternoon snack!

Speaking of 50/50, it seems as though there is a possiblity this weekend's Star Trek game (where I am a player) might be cancelled. The GM, [personal profile] tallgeese is having cataract surgery (I think today!) and so isn't sure if he'll be fully recovered. First of all, I need to say that I hope his surgery goes off without a hitch and that he does feel up to it, and of course I am not so much of a monster that I won't understand if he's not feeling fully recovered. But I will admit that I'll be deeply bummed out if we end up having to cancel again. It's been awhile since we've played. So long, in fact, that I'm not entirely sure we have a December date picked out yet. I should be sure to offer to run my alternate game-- which is basically, "what if all our same characters were somehow all at Starfleet Academy the same year?" I would offer it is as an alternate relaty version of the same group of people (Think Chris Pine vs. Shatner 'verses), so no one has to roll a new character unless they really wanted to. 

Also, I should say that if you are someone who regularly gets postcards from me, I have not stopped doing those... I just got way off schedule due to All The Things. Also, I'll be honest? After the election I considered just sending everyone a black postcard with just "Help!" written on it, and then I said to myself, "Lyda. These postcards were started to cheer people up during the pandemic. No one wants a story where your time/space traveling heroine has been thrown into an abyss, never to return."  But so, when I was at the coffee shop yesterday, I spotted a local artist selling cute little greeting cards of their work and, though it is not a postcard, I will be sending those out this week just to let my postcard recievers know that I am alive and still planning to continue this project.  

I think that's everything? I hope you all are still keeping on keeping on.
lydamorehouse: use for RPG (elf)
 I talk too much as a GM is what I'm learning. 

Because one of our players had to miss, we actually recorded the session. I watched a bit of it to make sure it was working properly. Since I'm still very much new at running games, I thought it was important, too, just to see how cringe I might be. Did I give people time to make decisions? Did I talk over anyone? Did I finish every sentence I started?

I can do better in all of the above categories and one other... probably more important one.

As I was telling a friend this morning in an email, the thing is, Shawn will tell you that if I have a really cool present planned for a birthday or whatever, my desire to spoil it is LEGION. There are so many times when I've nearly said, "Just take it now!!" when the present arrives, because I am so excited to see her reaction to it.

Unfortunately, I'm kind of similar as a game master. I understand that it is uncool to lead your players by the nose, but it's really hard to not want to put up a giant metaphorical ("theater of the mind!") neon sign up that says ADVENTURE BE HERE.

Of course, my players got their revenge, as it were. I have, like all newbie GMs so much stuff planned in the immediate vacinity, and my players are, instead, at the literal tran station LEAVING ALL MY PLANNED STUFF BEHIND.

Classic!

Ah well. Even if the game wasn't riop-roaring fun for everyone, it was a good distraction, I think? I heard from at least one player who had fun and was impressed with my audio-visual props. I'm still deeply unhappy with how some of the actual mechanics of TSL work in-game--fighting is such a mess--but the players are settling into their characters and the story has begun to unfold. 

Have you managed anything that feeds the spirit yet? Are you picking up any new hobbies in order to cope?

What's funny is that Shawn has, for reasons known only to herself, decided to learn shorthand. Apparently, this is something she really wanted to learn as a kid, but, of course, ieven already n the late-1970s it was quickly falling out of fashion. So, each of us is doing something that challenges our brains. I'm learning GMing skills; she's learning what is essentially secretarial secret code.

Tonight I have an organizing meeting with Indivisible. So, play last night, fight tonight. Seems like a reasonable balance.
lydamorehouse: (nic & coffee)
 Quick administrative note before I get into the rest of it: I've changed my policy about who I'm granting access to my locked posts to. I didn't have any problem that precipitated this. So, if you are finding yourself suddenly dropped, please don't imagine it's because you did anything wrong!  I've decided for simplicity's sake that I'm only granting access to folks who subscribe to me. I'm doing this in part because I discovered that I was following a bunch of dead accounts, all of whom still had access. I just figured that while I was there, I might as well make everything consistent. The chance that I will let you back in if you ask is incredibly high. In fact, if you'd rather not subscribe but still want see my locked posts, just drop me a request. I apologize for any disruption in your service, as it were!

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Okay, so.  I can't believe it's already noon and I've accomplished next to nothing.

It's kind of been like this since last Tuesday, however?  

The specifics of this morning go like this. Shawn and I got up and were doing our usual things when we realized that we needed to get our car off the street by 7 am for the street sweeper. So, I threw some lunch together for her (I have been making bento for Shawn since we bought a fancy, double-decker bento box several years ago), and we rushed out the door without breakfast. We decided to stop at Brugger's and although we're enough of regulars there that the guys behind the counter start making my sandwiches before I order, I really need to change that order because my GERDS can no longer handle the Swiss and sausage egg sandwich. But, as I'm sure some of you can relate, 1) it feels too hard right now to ask them to change the order, and 2) honestly, the kindness of the gesture is worth the stomach upset. Like, I need small kindesses so much right now, you know? 

I got home and did some of my usual morning internetting, which no longer involves checking social media. I have largely given up being on Facebook, outside of using it as a place to post cute pictures or pictures of food I am making or have made. If you want to follow me on a social, I am at Bluesky: @lydamorehouse.bsky.social

homemade hot-cross buns (half-eaten tray)
Image: half-eaten tray of fresh, homemade hot cross buns

Then, my alarm went off reminding me to get ready to record my podcast with Ka1lban. I was also working on a new review for MangaKast, which I have not updated in well over a month, and so I didn't really notice the time go by... until it was almost a half hour past when he usualy shows up. I dropped a note to him in Discord, wondering what was up--but apparently he doesn't get notifications from that... and anyway, he hadn't been planning on recording today, anyway, unbeknowst to me. 

This is where things start to feel very abortive, you know? Like, I'm all prepped for something that just isn't happening. 

I'm a little worried that something similar is going to happen tonight as well. I'm supposed to be running a Thirsty Sword Lesbians game at 7pm for a new group that I've assembled. I am embarrassingly prepared.  Like, it's a cyberpunk setting and I made two little mini movies of "found footage" for this group (if they follow the right clues!!) This is part of what I did to occupy my time while we were waiting for the news last Tuesday night, so I mean... it wasn't like I could concentrate on anything else. 

But this morning one of my players, [personal profile] haddayr , emailed to say that she's feeling too sick to fully participate. She's going to try to listen in, but no garuntees. This is our very first session? Players (at least the first one to respond, anyway,) made it clear that they are willing to go ahead without her, but... given how today is going so far, I'm sort of waiting for the other shoe to drop. 

To be perfectly clear, it would be okay if it did. I have learned from my other online groups is that it's always best to have at least two dates arranged ahead of time. So, if we have to cancel this time, we KNOW when the next session is supposed to be. It's already on the calendar. 

It's more that this has just felt very typical of almost all my days since last Tuesday. I feel very much like I can't get my feet under or, when I do, it's for something that is no longer happening or gets postponed or just doesn't work out for whatever reason. 

How are the rest of you doing?
lydamorehouse: (nic & coffee)
Before I leave behind this subject, I wanted to review myself as a GM and talk a little bit about how the game itself actually played out.

As I noted in the previous entry, I had some really good players. I play regularly with [personal profile] lcohen in our on-going Star Trek campaign and writers tend to be a good bet--and, as it turns out, [personal profile] naomikritzer is also a theatre person. I knew my friend Nick would also be good, since we played role-playing games together after college. The other two were unknowns, but turned out to mesh perfectly with the rest of the merry adventurers, as it were.

I am an inexperienced game master/runner. As much discussed here, I ran a Thirsty Sword Lesbians campaign at ConFABulous last year, and, ramping up to that, I test-played my homebrewed scenario several times with different groups. I ended up running that particular game a half dozen times in total? But, this was my first time running the classic Dungeons & Dragons, which, as you probably know if you are at all familiar, has a LOT of rules. 

Also, this was the first time for me running a game via Zoom.

Cut for length )
lydamorehouse: (Default)
Several weeks ago, [personal profile] naomikritzer tagged me on Bluesky so that I would be sure to see that someone was promoting their new Dungeons & Dragons 5e module: Solidarity: Drunk Girls* in the Bathroom. The concept: the adventure starts because your characters stumble across a drunk girl sobbing in the bathroom. Your quest? To undo the wrong what was done to her!

The whole thing is very…

You have my sword meme
Image: The "You have my sword" meme.

The concept sounded AMAZING.

I bought it immediately.

Cut for length )
lydamorehouse: (nic & coffee)
 I'm sitting on my front porch trying to be very quiet so as to not scare away the very light rain that seems to actually be falling from the sky. 

While I'm trying not to make any sudden moves, I thought I should catch you up on my life. First of all, there is a new interview with me up on Salon Futura. https://www.salonfutura.net/2024/09/lyda-morehouse-interview/ which you should feel free to listen to if you are curious about the upcoming re-release of Resurrection Code. There are no spoilers, even though the book is over 20 years old, but we do talk some of what it is about, my influences, and all the standard sorts of things one does in interviews like this. I am inordinately fond of Cheryl Morgan, so I think you should just listen to everything she has up on Salon Futura. 

I also posted another unboxing video on all the various socials. I'm pretty sure unboxing videos are passe, which is why I've done so many of them this year. 

Well, crap. I think I scared the rain away.  It looked possible there for a hot minute. Ah, well. I will keep my sprinkler on, in hopes that I can fool the sky into giving the whole thing a try.  It's been too long. Shawn sent me a whole article about how this is stressing out the trees, that threw me into an existential funk this afternoon. 

The countdown to surgery continues. We are at T-8 days. Thanks to everyone who chimed in with some last minute things Shawn could consider preparing, especially [personal profile] j00j and [personal profile] abracanabra for the clothing-related thoughts. Shawn had been thinking of relying on me for all her dressing needs, but she might be happier with some tools to help her do some for herself. The things you suggested are in the Amazon chart!

I'm also about four days out from running my first stab at "Solidarity: Drunk Girls* in the Bathroom." Earlier today, I was complaining to fellow GM [personal profile] tallgeese about the so-called "module" for this game. BACK IN MY DAY, a Dungeons & Dragons module contained more than vibes. It provided a game runner with literally everything they would need to run the campaign, outside of actual dice (although I'm sure some of them somewhere did come with a baggie of dice!) As enamored as I am of the concept of this game, it will be interesting to see how it functions in practice. The good news is that I have assembled a crack team of players who are ready to focus on roleplay over combat, so maybe none of it will matter as much as I worry it might. Regardless, I have spent a shocking amount of time preparing for any number of possibilities.  Some of you experienced game runners out there might be arching an eyebrow a the amount of time I have devoted to fleshing out a world around the scenario that The Drunk Girl* ([personal profile] lcohen ) and I are creating. Let me tell you a little story about the first time I thought I might try GMing a game....

Cast your mind back to the early 1990s. Cyberpunk was the hot thing and a bunch of different gaming companies were capitalizing on that fact. I somehow missed the popular cyberpunk game, but instead had a copy of GURPS Cyberpunk. GURPS is notorious for a number of reasons, but I wasn't actually all that fussed about the rules. Like, I figured that if I had a basic grasp of how the game went an an active imagination, I should be FINE. Except.... turns out, I, personally, need some processing time. I used to do improv theater, but GMing is actually slightly different. People expect a GM to have a generally cohesive sense of the world. They expect a semblance of a storyline. They llke.... maps. Mostly, I discovered, what players do not want is for their GM to freeze up in abject terror and not have a single thought come into their heads. I ended up doing that last bit more than once. It was BAD. A disaster, even.

Luckily, I was 21 and as I told my friend, entirely made out of ego (which was obviously a large part of the problem, but also what saved me from dying on the spot and then spending the rest of my life hiding in shame.) 

Let's see... other things I've been up to. I finished listening to Someone You Can Build a Nest In (I keep getting the title of this wrong, but this is the correct one.) I have Frankenstein cued up because I think we are doing it as a deep-dive on our cyberpunk podcast. How is Frankenstein cyberpunk? HOW IS IT NOT? Artificial life! Questions of what it means to be human! SCIENCE!

Did I ever tell you all that I actually met a Dr. Frankenstein? She was a dentist. I happened to be standing in line at the vet back in the day (so long ago back in the day that I was still seeing Dr. Holly out in St. Louis Park because we were living in Uptown.) The woman in front of me said, "I'm here for [Fluffy.] It's under Frankenstein," and I laughed and said, "Well, you should really get a PhD so you can be a doctor with a name like that!" and that's when she told me she was, in fact, a doctor--a dentist. We had a very short conversation about her name and what a hassle she must find it, the details of which I no longer remember. I was trying to be polite, but I really wanted to know what it was like to walk around with such a famous name. But I was also aware that her name probably meant she must spend 80% of her time having conversations just like the one she was having with me. 

Like Shawn being 6'1"--it used to be that not a day would go by without someone asking her if she played basketball. Or ask what "the weather was like up there."

It's still looking dark. Should I dare hope?

Eh, I just looked at the extended weather forecast. The short answer is: there is no hope for rain this entire week. In fact the humidity is supposed to drop really low for some reason... 

JFC.

So, do you remember that I told you all that I've been feeling a weird nostalgia for crunchy granola food from the 1970s. Well, Shawn ended up having a huge lunch via a food truck at work today so we agreed we were "yoyo"-ing (you're on your own). So, I decided to make myself the most amazing tempeh parmesan. It's supposed to be like chicken parmesan, only with tempeh. And some of you are screwing up your faces right now in disgust, but you are WRONG. This was delicious! And I am inordinately excited that there are three servings leftover so that I can have this for lunch for the next several days.

hmmm, there are probably far more interesting things to catch you all up on, but that's all that's crossing my mind at the moment. 
lydamorehouse: (Default)
I managed to forget my friend [personal profile] haddayr's wedding on Sunday. At least I had never RSVP'd and I had only been invited to the post-ceremony Open House. Shawn and I were supposed to be away this last week in Saint Louis, MO, for the CoSA (Council of State Archivists) meeting. As previously discussed, Shawn is being extra paranoid about infections and decided that travel was ill-advised and so the trip was cancelled. I had the invite sitting on our piano as a reminder, but I never did get around to RSVPing, so I suppose it's fine. It was such a lovely day yesterday, though. I would have liked to have given the two of them my best.  Alas!

However, it turned into a weirdly busy day, even without the missed wedding.

Shawn is gathering all the things she's going to need post-surgery. We have gotten a bath transfer bench from someone off buy nothing, but a couple of friends of ours  happened to have a daughter (I know, too young!) who had to have knee surgery who offered us a toilet set frame. So Jason and Carrie (two horror movies, as they like to remind people) came over with that and of course it wasn't just in and out. We had to stand around on the porch and chat. 

Mason, who has been incommunicado because he caught COVID immediately upon returning to campus, was feeling well enough to chat so I skipped my usual Zoom with my folks and caught up on the life of our nearly college grad. Mason is a senior this year, if you can believe it! Then, he and Shawn stayed on the line a little longer and booked him is flight back for Thanksgiving weekend. 

Then. our friend Lana came over to return a bread pan that I'd loaned her. I have two of those double-loaf French loaf pans and I went over to make bread with her one Sunday several months ago and had to leave before the bread was out of the oven. Since I have an extra pan, I told her to return it at her leisure. Lana is a regular performer in our local A Klingon Christmas Carol troupe. This year, she'll be playing The General in I'll Be Home for Kahless: The Hallmark Parody of the Season (at the Phoenix Theater in Minneapolis.) I'm thinking that this might have to be the year I finally see one of these things. 

Shawn ended up giving Lana a tour of the house. Like you do.

Oh, and in there somewhere around noon, Shawn and I also got our seasonal flu shots. So, we are now fully upgraded for the season, having gotten the newest COVID vaccine two-weeks prior. 

On top of all this, Shawn and I spent hours working on our Health Care Directives. You can not say Shawn is unprepared for this surgery. Not only do we have all this stuff, but we literally have updated our wills and Health Care Directives. 




That was all just Sunday

Saturday, Shawn and I got her rollaway bed put together for the downstairs (again, for post-surgery.) We don't have a couch, so it seemed like a good thing to own so that Shawn can rest as needed without trying to do our stairs--particularly that first week or two. Then, I think the only other things I did were RPG-related.

I spent a huge amount of time working on a possible dungeon crawl for the folks who I've gathered to play Solidarity: Drunk Girls* in the Bathroom , on the off chance they go that way.

Then, I turned around and tried to catch up on the changes in the Second Edition of the Star Trek: Adventures Role-Playing Game for the monthly game I play in. We had a shorter than usual playing session as [personal profile] bcholmes led us through the character conversion process. That went decently well for most of us, except that one of our players, [personal profile] lcohen , completely lost her species and abilities in the upgrade. So, that was no fun for her.  But, the game itself was action-packed. We said goodbye, in-game, to one of our long time members, [personal profile] jiawen , who will be very much missed -- as we immediately blew up one of our long time NPCs, due to a lack of caution. (Okay, actually, that was just the way I played him and it turns out our Chief Medical Officer has a new superpower that allowed us to make a miracle rescue.)  Due to the power vacuum created in jiawen's absence, my character has gotten a promotion that he is highly uncertain about. I'm looking forward his growing pains as he figures out how to command. This problem--feeling your way into command--feels very much like some of the stuff I loved about Saru from Star Trek: Discovery, if you watched any of that.

So, that was my weekend. How was yours. Forget any weddings???
lydamorehouse: (crazy eyed Renji)
I'm currently listening to an audiobook called Flux by Jinwoo Chong. I picked it because I'm running out of books that Goodreads has decided are cyberpunk that I can easily get through my library (or as audiobooks). So, what I did was just put "cyberpunk" into the tags I wanted into the Libby app and asked it to find me some stuff. I'm not sure how well it did.  There is a tiny bit of "wetwear" in this novel (one of the characters was mute, but receives a voice modulator,) but... I don't know, man. Like, the SF is light on the ground. I think I was duped into listening to mainstream fiction.  *grumpy face*

My plan is to listen to the book until the loan period runs out (about five days) on the off chance that it markedly improves. I have another book that just became available, which is not SF, which is Someone You Can Build a Nest in by John Wiswell, who I met, briefly, when he was in town for Fourth Street. This book is getting a lot of good buzz, plus I rather liked John, so I thought I might as well give it a try. So, that one is up next in the queue.

Otherwise, the big thing I'm re-reading right now is the rulebook for Thirsty Sword Lesbians, as it seems that is the campaign that my brand new once-a-month Tuesday night RPG group is going to have me run for them. Due to having run this several times before (including twice as a one shot at ConFABulous), I have homebrewed the f*ck out of the cyberpunk scenario, and so another huge thing I've been doing is writing what amounts to a personal Player's Guide. 

Which, not going to lie, I've been really enjoying. 

I'm a whore for worldbuilding. It's a big part of what I used to do when I was writing a metric ton of Bleach fanfic. (Which, shhh, don't tell, I've also had a yen to write again. This is all, of course, because I have a novel I SHOULD be working on.)

Anyway, how about you? Reading anything interesting or fun right now?
lydamorehouse: (ichigo freaked)
 Shawn and I have a notebook full of allegorical names for a farcical mystery we are never going to write. These are names like Scott Free and Helena Handbasket. I wonder if General News is in the list? I should check. It's been a while since we added a new name.

But, on to the actual general news (as opposed to the allegorical one.) I don't think I have a huge amount to catch you up on this week, but it's been a while so I thought I'd catch you up on the goings-on arounds these parts.

Tuesday ended up being a skip week for the podcast. While my co-host tested negative for COVID, he did come down with something nasty enough to keep him off the air. What was ironic about that, is that I had Shawn reschedule her pre-op appointment because it had conflicted. Then, suddenly, neither of us had anything to do at that time. (Well, I mean, Shawn went to work, but it was a very, "Damn it, we coulda..." sort of thing.) It has been, I think you'll see, a week like this.

Wednesday, I was scheduled to record with Cheryl Morgan--my editor and publisher over at Wizard's Tower--for her podcast. That went really well, but it was funny the extent to which I'd forgotten a lot of the plot of Resurrection Code

Yesterday, I had both an in-person Wyrdsmiths (my writing critique group) and I hung out with my friend [personal profile] jiawen for a couple of hours, which was nice. We talked about everything from WisCON to the recent presidential debates, volcanos, and our various lives and such. Good times. 

Then I went for a very short walk and now I'm hot and tired. Dang exercise, making me sweaty!
lydamorehouse: (Aizen)
 As you all know (since I swear I talk about it constantly), Shawn is having her knee surgery on Tuesday, October 8. What I had not factored into all of this is that my favorite local con, ConFABulous, runs October 11-13. Shawn is still going to be heavily medicated by the 11th. Also, everyone who talks about this surgery--including Shawn's own surgeon--says that the first week is Hell Week. So I think I was being foolish imagining I can attend this con in any way, much less run two games. 

It kind of breaks my heart, but there will always be next year. 

I has made me more determined to get serious about starting an RPG group of my own. So, I guess: watch this space. I would really love a group of folks that would let me try running mini-campaigns in a bunch of different systems. I even found what looks like a really fun, light way to get started in D&D called Solidarity: Drunk Girls* in Bathrooms.

I also had to let my cousin know that Shawn and I are not going down to St. Louis, MO, later this month for her COSA (Counsel of State Archivists) conference. Things have gotten complicated at Shawn's work, plus see above. Shawn is very paranoid (and I think rightly) about picking up any infections too close to her big surgery. Apparently, if the replacement bone stuff they use gets an infection in it, it can be nearly impossible to get rid of--and sometimes the only solution is to REDO the surgery. No one wants that. Plus, Shawn has planned the timing of this perfectly and if the surgeon calls it off, who knows how far out the next available time is, you know?

It's just tough because it is interfering with a lot of the things I love, including road trips!  

But, all these things aren't nearly as important as Shawn health.  And ConFABulous will be there for me next year. COSA will be somewhere else next year, but we can always just plan a trip to Saint Louis sometime! So, it's not all lost. But it's just such a bummer to have to cancel on people.
lydamorehouse: (renji has hair)
 On Friday's, Shawn and I have a "date night." It's really just 'us' time and not necessarily more romantic than that. We usually pick a dinner that we can eat on the porch or in our comfy chairs in the living room, depending on the season. Then. we prop up our iPad, or, if we're feeling fancy, laptop with special stereo adaptor, and settle in for some streaming something--often a movie. This last Friday, we watch a film that was so obviously filmed during the isolation part of the pandemic that I was kind of surprised they wasted the budget money, since half of the shots were of one woman, sitting in a chair, and the other half was LITERALLY WATCHING AUDACITY RECORD. The movie is called, Monolith. It's apparently an award winning show that had positive reception, but I think I would have enjoyed it as JUST a podcast. 

The story was fine? I was not surprised by most of the twists and turns, but Shawn said she was, so that might mean it was just my writerly brain superpower activating and not actually a real problem with the show. Anyone else see this one? What did you think?

I have not managed much more drawing on my slice-of-life diary in part because life has managed to be busy. Mason headed back to school in Connecticut this morning at 8 am, and a lot of the previous week was getting him packed up and ready to go. Shawn and I spent most of the rest of today digging through the house looking for things for the Midway Free Sale, which will be happening next weekend. We have put ourselves on the map as one of the stops because god knows we have stuff to unload. So, this is just a first past. If you are local, you should check it out. Apparently, there will be a map. I will try to remember to share information when the Google Map is released. 

Meanwhile, I had a consult with a nutritionist. I asked my doc for a referral because I've been struggling with GERDs. I got some... interesting advice that seems to be working. Honestly, it almost sounds like quackery. The nutritionist suggested that, because sometimes GERDs is a result of not enough acid, if you swallow a teaspoon of cider vinegar with a glass of water that will help things move along. She said that I would know immediately if it was the wrong solution and, if so, I should just stop.  My approach to a lot of this stuff is "Well, if it doesn't actively HURT me, why not try it?"  And it seems to be doing the trick! Fingers crossed. 

I've been spending my weekend revising and populating my Thirsty Sword Lesbian cyberpunk one-shot for the upcoming ConFABulous.  I should probably be working on gathering examples for the next themed episode of the podcast, but I'm giving myself a small play break. 

What about you? Been up to anything much?

Reading?

Aug. 14th, 2024 01:39 pm
lydamorehouse: (nic & coffee)
 It's been a slow reading week. I don't really have that much to report. I started listening to the audiobook of Terminal Boredom by Izumi Suzuki, which is a collection of short stories. So far I've been enjoying it. 

The other thing I read is my copy of the TTRPG Camp Flying Moose by Alicia Furness because I am planning on running a one-shot of it at ConFABulous (October 11-13, 2024). If you were ever a fan of Lumberjanes the graphic novels, this is the RPG for you. The game seems pretty simple to run, but I did have to re-work the provided character sheet because it had no place to put the stats.... which seems like a kind of major oversight. But, it was easy enough to do. 

Oh, I should also probably mention that the SIXTH episode of Mona Lisa Overdrive dropped today. Kali1ban and I talk about WorldCON a bit as well as the aesthetics of cybperpunk. A LOT of short stories titles get dropped, so if you're looking for a "is this cyberpunk or not?" kind of read, you can check that out. 

Otherwise, I feel like I'm finally starting to recover from WorldCON. I'm starting to catch up on my correspondence, etc. It's weird to feel like this when all I did was attend virtually. 

That's it for me. What about you? Reading or watching or listening anything interesting? 
lydamorehouse: use for Star Trek RPG (star trek)
 I am just waiting for payday to send off my newest Star Trek Pride quilt. This one is for[personal profile] bcholmes, our ship's captain. The important thing to know about BC's character is that Captain Taryn is inordinately fond of our shuttle craft(s,) but one in particular, an Argo-class shuttle we call the "Grace Hopper." I wouldn't say she'd quite sacrifice our crew for this, but... there have been a few close calls. ;-) !!



close-up of the shuttle craft panels
Image: close-up of the shuttle craft panel

This was done with the heat transfer sheets and I'm both pleased with the results and also worried about how quickly they might crack or fade. So, BC! When you get this be careful it--also if it ever does become sad and cracked, we'll make arrangements for me to take it back and I will attempt to figure out how to replace that panel. I could potentially applique over it, if need be.

Here's what the whole quilt looks like:

the full quilt, a trans flag with various gaming and space-related  fabrics
Image: The whole quilt in the colors of the trans pride flag, with various gaming and science/space-related fabrics.

The flipside did not photograph very well, but it is a very fuzzy, warm flannel with an applique commander's badge from OT. What is less clear in the picture, but hopefully will be appreciated is that the edging of the quilt is this amazing early Klingon-era gold pattern. I should have taken a close-up of it before I packaged up the quilt. Alas. Maybe if you expand the photo and then enlarge one of the edges you can see how perfectly Old Trek it is.


reverse side
Image: reverse side, a commander's badge on yellow flannel.

As always these are very amateur attempts. Not everything is straight (but then neither is our crew! Ha, ha!) But I did my best and I did it all with love for all of the people I play with, the game, et al. I have one more to complete, having intentionally saved the friend I have known the longest in that group, [personal profile] jiawen (our first officer) for last. 

Speaking of this group, our GM had to cancel and I am hoping to talk my friends into letting me run a quick Star Trek: Adventures one-shot for them on Saturday. I suspect everyone has already gone on to make other plans, but I'm going to prep, anyway, since if not this time, then some other. 
lydamorehouse: (ichigo freaked)
 This weekend, I blew off some responsibilities in order to take part in Free RPG Day. 

My friend [personal profile] tallgeese alerted me to the fact that there was a big event at Tower Games over in Minneapolis. I noticed on the events page that someone was running a Thirsty Sword Lesbians one-shot. I should probably be sick of TSL since I took my responsibility for running a game at ConFABulous so seriously that I ran not one, but TWO practice sessions. But, two things. First, I was interested to see how someone else might construct a one-shot and, secondly, there's just so many scenarios you can play with this system that it's not like it's ho-hum, same old, same old. 

I had never been to Tower Games before. It's a nifty little store that is super easy to get to (at least for me) because you basically get off 35W right at the exit that used to be "mine" when I lived in Uptown, (36-38th Avenue.) Then it's a short hop down Nicolet and you're there. I was worried about parking, but I got there early enough that I was able to park on the street on the same block as the store, even. Tower Games is set-up like a lot of gaming stores seem to be where there's a front area with all the merchandise and then, once you go through this narrow hallway, it opens up into a backroom that's set-up for gaming. For this event, they had long, skinny tables--sort of like the kind you might find in a bar?--with basically a set of barstools around each. They managed to cram SIX tables into this space, which, I think would normally have otherwise seemed decently spacious, but felt really crowded during the event. At one point, in fact, our GM got kind of overwhelmed by the ambient noise and lost her train of thought!  So, given that I think she's a regular there, I think the place was unusually packed. I did hear someone say when I was coming in that they had NEVER seen this many people at the store at once before.

Our GM, Emily. was wearing a mask and so I asked her if she would be more comfortable if I did. I had brought one with me--like it was literally on my wrist, but I had planned on reading the room and gauge how I felt about it (it wasn't nearly as crowded when I first came in). But, even though she said it was up to me, I followed her lead and put mine on.  What was amazing to me is that once at least one other person had one on, everyone else around the table masked up. Most of us were clearly ready and willing to, which... the cockles of my heart were warmed, let's just say. One of the players clearly felt badly about not having one, so I asked her if she wanted one as I had extra unopened KN-95s in my car. She said yes and so I ran off before the game got underway and gave her one. We might have been the only table that was 100% masked.

But, unlike a lot of other spaces, there were just generally lots of other masks all around the room. I don't always love my fellow nerds, but this was nice.

Our table was also almost entirely women, though we had one brave guy probably my age join us. (I think we were the oldest two players--he might even have only been in his 40s, and I'm 56.) We all chose to play she/her lesbians, only one she/they lesbian, which was my character.

The scenario that Emily had prepared for us was PIRATES! 

I'm not going to go into all the details of the one-shot because I know that can be boring, but I do want to talk about it a little. Emily made the interesting choice of letting us develop our own characters. I go back and forth about this in a one-shot, if only because it can really take away a lot of the gaming time. In one of my test runs, in fact, it took and hour and a half of the three hours we had blocked off to play.  But, some people are, in fact, there to see how the game WORKS. Like, they signed up for this one-shot because they want a quick intro to the mechanics of the game. Part of that is developing characters and choosing to have players make their own on the spot does give the GM a chance to familiarize players with their playbooks/character sheets--which has to get done, even if you use pre-generated characters. So, this is a big part of why I feel like both choices are valid. I just tend, myself, to favor those who want to get to the Thirsty and the Sword part of playing Thirsty Sword Lesbians. 

I chose a playbook that I actually find LEAST attractive as GM in part because I wanted to explore this character type/get to know it better by playing it. Thirsty Sword Lesbians had a ton of different playbooks you can choose from a lot of which sort of/kind of map to D&D character types. Like, there is a Trickster playbook which is sort of like a rogue (though arguments could be made that Scoundrel better maps to rogue, though maybe that person is more like a bard...) and a Beast that is sort of like a barbarian, etc., etc. There are two magic-user types, the wizard analog, which is Spooky Witch and the druid analog, Nature Witch. I picked Nature Witch because, speaking of mechanics, I find some of the things about that playbook to be kind of... not dumb, that's unfair. But, as a GM, I find them hard to figure out how to work into a scenario so that players who do want to be this type of person can DO those things. Like, there's a very clunky mechanic in Nature Witch where you are supposed to attempt to complete four "trials" from a list. And the list is random AF. "Kiss someone dangerous," "Lose something important to you," "Ride a magical beast," etc.

Okay, a little side rant, I find this kind of disrupting as a GM. Like, Nature Witches are often just doing things in the game that seem like left turns because they are trying to check off their ticky boxes in order to gain experience points or whatever is the prize for having completed their list.  So, when I homebrewed my cyberpunk game I wrote a list of trials to chose from that would ACTUALLY ADVANCE MY DAMN PLOT and move people around the board, as it were. Like, before I thought to do this, I found my test game's Nature Witch just leading everyone fully away from anything remotely connected--which is fine in a longer campaign, I'd imagine, but kind of nuts if you assume people want to sort of have a conclusion to the story you promised. (And yeah, I know most one shots turn into three or four session games, but I'll have you know both one-shots I ran at ConFABulous got to a resolution in 3 hours! And, Emily also wrapped our story up in 2!)

But, so I actually tried to see if there were trials I could do that would fit with a pirate scenario. I managed to get two out of my four completed, but that felt satisfying enough. I don't know. I will say that enjoyed this game playing as a Nature Witch, so that was a success. 

I also took full advantage of the TSL / Powered by the Apocalypse gaming culture wherein players have a lot more agency than your average D&D player. The other players elected my character to be the Captain of our pirate ship and, so I asked them what they all thought their jobs were, and first mate/XO, gunner (for the Beast, naturally), and cook all got snapped up fast, but our Spooky Witch character was at a loss, so I just declared (like you can in PbtA games) that because I'm a Nature Witch and spacy like that, I kind of just found our ship? It ran aground in whatever cove I normally holed up in and so I just took it over, like you do. A crew was still on it, however, but they were ghosts, and so we needed a Spooky Witch to be our ghost wrangler. Our ship is basically haunted all the time, maybe isn't even really sea worthy (magic might be involved), but we don't let that stop us. This DELIGHTED our Spooky Witch. The GM was also really happy because that was a whole extra layer of flavor that she could weave in. 

So, it was a fun game. We kind of resisted the plot unintentionally, it turned out. None of us wanted to trust the pirate queen's girlfriend, because when the GM asked me how I might have known this person I immediately declared them an ex and so the whole rest of the crew was disinclined to want to help. But, it was clear where the bread crumbs were leading and we got the two back together in time for a nice finale. 

It was a FANTASTIC way to spend two hours, plus I got a swag bag to take home. There weren't any games in the bag that I was particularly interested, but they were fun to look through before they made their way to my little free library. 

Anyway, that was my weekend. YARRR!  You?
lydamorehouse: (Default)
Yesterday was a day of errands for me. Mostly I schlepped my family around, actually. Shawn kicked the day off with an appointment she wanted me to sit in on, in order to be a second pair of ears. She recently discovered that her right knee has degraded to the point where she's going to need knee replacement surgery sooner rather than later.

I know what you're all thinking. How do you DISCOVER this all of a sudden? Shouldn't you have felt your knee slowly getting worse?

This is precisely what happened with Shawn's gall bladder. It was zero to IT NEEDS TO COME OUT RIGHT NOW. I think this happens because she suffers nearly constant migraines my beloved wife just doesn't notice the rest of her body falling apart. So, she had some swelling in her knee and then got an x-ray where the doctors were like, "Mrs. Rounds, you have not had cartilage in this knee for what seems to be years.... how are you even walking?" And Shawn will be like, ?? because she's on day 26 in a row of the kind of cluster headache that is colloquially dubbed "suicide migraines" because they are that bad.

So, at any rate, she is looking at knee surgery in October and this is going to be an ORDEAL, but on the other hand, one of Shawn's great stress relievers is going for walks and not being able to do that has not exactly helped the migraine situation either. So, knee surgery it is!

Then, we had to text Mason from the clinic to make sure he was ready to be picked-up for his hair appointment, which we had accidentally scheduled perilously close to the end of this consult. But, he was up and ready and so we whisked him off to a salon that specializes in long, wavy hair. Mason inherited SOME of his mother's curls, but you wouldn't know it because his hair is long enough to be kind of heavy and it weights down a lot of the natural curl. He's had some split ends happening for awhile now too, so any way, even though it was not on par with surgery consultation, it was still fairly important to get done.

Then, as the driver of the family, I hung out near the salon (no hardship as it was close to Nina's Coffeeshop.) I brought Mason and I home and had about an hour to catch my breath when, speaking of migraines, I got back in the car to take Shawn off to the suburbs to her neurologist. The exciting news on that front is that migraine medicine continues to evolve and Shawn is now going to be the recipient of a new med that has some promise. FINGERS CROSSED. I told her that one of my sincere wishes for her is to have a day--just even one, single day--that is 100% pain free. I'm not sure she's had that in her adult life. (I mean a lot of chronic pain sufferers don't, but this is also my wish for all of you/them.)

It was a lot of driving around for me, but I got a LOT of Duolingo done. I have started this new habit, which I think is actually working for me, wherein I spend my first several minutes of every session just going over the new section they have called "words." You get almost no points for doing this, but I don't care. It's what I need, if I want to have any hope of actually remembering Japanese. It's basically vocab review? I've been missing this in my life since I had to drop Drops (an app that is solely devoted to vocabulary).

Plus, I am fond of listening to the actual radio.

Do people even do this any more? Like, I'm not talking about streaming music or a podcast, I mean that stuff that is in the air on radio waves. Like, where you tune your radio device to a frequency. Very old school. But, it's one of the few ways I'm introduced to new music. My weird habit of listening to the actual radio is the only reason I can sing along to Taylor Swift at my age.

You may have also noticed that I missed "What Are You Reading Wednesday?" this week, despite the fact that I've been starting to be more consistent now that I'm reading and consuming things for my new cyberpunk podcast. This is because (spoiler!) our next episode is going to be about the anime sensation Ghost in the Shell, and so all I would be doing would be listing Ghost in the Shell in all of it's half-a-zillion iterations.,, and I figured that might be a bit boring for you. Because, seriously. ALL I am doing right now (and will do until we record next Tuesday) is reading and watching the movies, the anime, and the manga.

Because there is A LOT.

So far, I have AVOIDED the live action, but I might just break down and watch it because I'm sure my co-host will want to complain about it a little.

I am behind on the rest of my life as a consequence, but I'm starting to get my feet up under me. [personal profile] the_siobhan and [personal profile] magenta I am finally hoping to sit down and write a reply volley in our various snail mail games. I actually have been saving your letters to read and reply to, so my apologies, but this is me savoring the experience. But the goal is to have things in the mail to you both before the week is officially done. 

I don't have much else to report, I don't think? How are you all!?
lydamorehouse: use for Star Trek RPG (star trek)
I think there might be a few people here interested in reading my latest Star Trek: Adventures RPG fic. I'm going to post the Safe for Work version here, but the NSFW option can be found here (along with all the other Sular fics) over at Archive of Our Own: https://archiveofourown.org/works/48810082/chapters/123129571 (<-- the full series, including the Vulcan smut. The direct link to the smut is embedded above.)

As usual, the fic appears under the cut.

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