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 My deepest apologies. I've been busy doing the things I do, including the podcast.  

I did a lot of TTRPGing since the last time we chatted. I ran a D&D game on Saturday, played in a somewhat disasterous Star Trek: Adventures game that same night, and ran a Thirsty Sword Lesbians game Tuesday night. I don't game nearly as often as this list makes me seem. I just swear to all the gods that whatever day my D&D group has agreed to play that month, I also have Star Trek game that same night. Likewise, the TSL group will just somehow fall in the same week. I literally play/run at least TWO of these three games MONTHLY. How they all end up clustered like this is, indeed, a mystery. 

I'm also in the last few hours of nominating for the Hugo's. I pulled the trigger and bought virtual tickets to Seattle WorldCON at the same time. When I virtually attended Glasgow's WorldCON, one of the tech guys told me that they'd be using a lot of the same program/technologies and I hope that's true. I found the virtual version of that con particularly robust and, perhaps more importantly, decently inuitive to use. 

I should also report that part of my lack of communication/updatery here is the fact that Mason is home for Spring Break. He's currently off at a coffee shop working on his senior thesis, so, if y'all are so inclined, I'm sure he could use white light and thoughts and prayers. ;-) My understanding of his thesis work is the intersection of science fiction and environmental justice. I mean, pretty cool stuff!  And perfectly aligned with his majors, which are, in fact, English and Environmental Studies. 

Otherwise, how the heck are you all? 
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 Mason is headed back to Wesleyan at the end of this month and so we are rushing to get a few house projects done before he heads out. This morning--at THE MOST AWKWARD TIME, of course--the Home Depot truck showed up with our pallet of retaining wall bricks. Worse, because he arrived on a day when all of the Homesmart Energy people are at work at the end of my block, there was NO WAY he could maneuver his little forklift to leave the huge pile of bricks on a wooden thingie anywhere but on the street. 

So Mason and I ended up having to breakdown the pallet first thing. Mason had barely shaved. I didn't know which end was up. But, somehow, miraculously, we got all the bricks moved up to a spot under our maple tree and the wooden pallet rolled into the backyard, hopefully to be gifted to someone on the neighborhood Buy Nothing group.

Now I'm just sweaty and tired and EXTRA stupid, you know?

Seems like a Monday.
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 bread made from steel cut oats
Image: bread made from steel cut oats (leftovers).

Yesterday was Mason's TWENTY-FIRST birthday. For some reason, despite the fact that he's been an official adult for some time now, 21 feels... old. Like, I have a grown-up child all of a sudden. It feels very weird.

At any rate, we had a lovely day. Shawn took the day off and I cancelled all my usual plans.

However, we didn't have a huge agenda. In fact, one of the gifts Mason wanted to give himself was a long, solitary walk--for three hours. One of the things Shawn and I have been doing when we have spare time is to go through the zillion and a half cookbooks we've collected over the years. In one of them--a vegetarian cookbook from 1978--was a very gnarly recipe for bread using leftover steel cut oats (though I think their recipe might have called for oat groats.. I know for sure that it absolutely wanted wheat germ.) At any rate, I thought to myself, "Huh, I have some leftover steel cut oats in the fridge. I wonder if there is a modern recipe out there for bread that could use those up?" SURE ENOUGH. I found one immediately. 

Unfortunately, this recipe made THREE LOAVES of bread. I... do not know what we're going to do with so much oatmeal bread??? It's tasty, but very.... let's just say it still vibes very 1978. It is... CRUNCHY in a granola-head way. My family is very uncertain about the steel cut oats because my family mistrusts any food over three days old. Mason generally laughed to see me making this stuff and rolled his eyes because he has noticed that I've been gravitating towards these kinds of cookbooks lately. I've been threatening "something with tempeh" for dinner for several days now. This is an empty threat... mostly (though I did buy some when I saw it was still in the stores.)

Is it nostalgia? Maybe? Although my mother never cooked like this. I didn't even really hang around people who did, either. I think it's some version of FOMO nostalgia. Like, I always thought the hippie granola-heads were COOL in the 1978s, so now I am attempting to be one. Which is so me... because now is not the right time as finding bulgur wheat is damned near impossible these days. I know because I looked for it a couple of years ago and EVENTUALLY found somewhere unexpected (I had STARTED at the coops, and maybe found it at Target??) Anyway, the point is, I not sure anyone even really liked this food when it was popular. I am probably chasing some FOMO nostalgia I won't even be happy to have recreated. :-)

And now I have three loaves of it. As it were.
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Yesterday was a day of errands for me. Mostly I schlepped my family around, actually. Shawn kicked the day off with an appointment she wanted me to sit in on, in order to be a second pair of ears. She recently discovered that her right knee has degraded to the point where she's going to need knee replacement surgery sooner rather than later.

I know what you're all thinking. How do you DISCOVER this all of a sudden? Shouldn't you have felt your knee slowly getting worse?

This is precisely what happened with Shawn's gall bladder. It was zero to IT NEEDS TO COME OUT RIGHT NOW. I think this happens because she suffers nearly constant migraines my beloved wife just doesn't notice the rest of her body falling apart. So, she had some swelling in her knee and then got an x-ray where the doctors were like, "Mrs. Rounds, you have not had cartilage in this knee for what seems to be years.... how are you even walking?" And Shawn will be like, ?? because she's on day 26 in a row of the kind of cluster headache that is colloquially dubbed "suicide migraines" because they are that bad.

So, at any rate, she is looking at knee surgery in October and this is going to be an ORDEAL, but on the other hand, one of Shawn's great stress relievers is going for walks and not being able to do that has not exactly helped the migraine situation either. So, knee surgery it is!

Then, we had to text Mason from the clinic to make sure he was ready to be picked-up for his hair appointment, which we had accidentally scheduled perilously close to the end of this consult. But, he was up and ready and so we whisked him off to a salon that specializes in long, wavy hair. Mason inherited SOME of his mother's curls, but you wouldn't know it because his hair is long enough to be kind of heavy and it weights down a lot of the natural curl. He's had some split ends happening for awhile now too, so any way, even though it was not on par with surgery consultation, it was still fairly important to get done.

Then, as the driver of the family, I hung out near the salon (no hardship as it was close to Nina's Coffeeshop.) I brought Mason and I home and had about an hour to catch my breath when, speaking of migraines, I got back in the car to take Shawn off to the suburbs to her neurologist. The exciting news on that front is that migraine medicine continues to evolve and Shawn is now going to be the recipient of a new med that has some promise. FINGERS CROSSED. I told her that one of my sincere wishes for her is to have a day--just even one, single day--that is 100% pain free. I'm not sure she's had that in her adult life. (I mean a lot of chronic pain sufferers don't, but this is also my wish for all of you/them.)

It was a lot of driving around for me, but I got a LOT of Duolingo done. I have started this new habit, which I think is actually working for me, wherein I spend my first several minutes of every session just going over the new section they have called "words." You get almost no points for doing this, but I don't care. It's what I need, if I want to have any hope of actually remembering Japanese. It's basically vocab review? I've been missing this in my life since I had to drop Drops (an app that is solely devoted to vocabulary).

Plus, I am fond of listening to the actual radio.

Do people even do this any more? Like, I'm not talking about streaming music or a podcast, I mean that stuff that is in the air on radio waves. Like, where you tune your radio device to a frequency. Very old school. But, it's one of the few ways I'm introduced to new music. My weird habit of listening to the actual radio is the only reason I can sing along to Taylor Swift at my age.

You may have also noticed that I missed "What Are You Reading Wednesday?" this week, despite the fact that I've been starting to be more consistent now that I'm reading and consuming things for my new cyberpunk podcast. This is because (spoiler!) our next episode is going to be about the anime sensation Ghost in the Shell, and so all I would be doing would be listing Ghost in the Shell in all of it's half-a-zillion iterations.,, and I figured that might be a bit boring for you. Because, seriously. ALL I am doing right now (and will do until we record next Tuesday) is reading and watching the movies, the anime, and the manga.

Because there is A LOT.

So far, I have AVOIDED the live action, but I might just break down and watch it because I'm sure my co-host will want to complain about it a little.

I am behind on the rest of my life as a consequence, but I'm starting to get my feet up under me. [personal profile] the_siobhan and [personal profile] magenta I am finally hoping to sit down and write a reply volley in our various snail mail games. I actually have been saving your letters to read and reply to, so my apologies, but this is me savoring the experience. But the goal is to have things in the mail to you both before the week is officially done. 

I don't have much else to report, I don't think? How are you all!?
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 Dr. Evermore in Madison
Image: Dr. Evermore birds... in Madison (Me for scale. I am only 5'2" but not ant-sized as picture might have you believe.)

I must apologize for the radio silence. After we packed up Mason, we did a LOT of days of just driving. I can report for "What Are You Reading Wednesday," that I finished up the audiobook of Darcie Little Badger's A Snake Falls to Earth. I tried to start a number of other books, but bounced out of them due to narrators that drove me a little crazy for various reason, the most annoying of which was a female reader who decided for reasons known only to herself to read the one female character on the crew in a falsetto. It was oddly off-putting, so I sent that one back, unfinished. 

But, so, other than just driving and listening to audio tapes, we only made a couple of stops on the way back. The first was to see my mother-in-law, Margaret, whom I think I noted is in hospice. She apparently waited for our return and a chance to talk to Mason because we just got the news that she's taken a downturn. She's now on oxygen and morphine. You wouldn't have known it during our visit though. She rallied for us, following the conversation like a trouper, even offering candies to Mason, like she did when he was just a smol. 

I'm glad that we had no other plans that day and so we could spend as much time as we needed. Then we only made the short jump from Indiana to Madison. I really wanted to be sure to devote some time to the Deke Slayton Museum (more on that in a moment) and so didn't want to be rushing through Chicago traffic to try to get there before it closed. Because it was such a short drive, we ended up at our hotel super early and the room wasn't ready for us yet. Luckily, I am always ready with roadside attractions. 

The first place we stopped was the site where Elvis broke up a fight...

Elvis in Wisconsin
Image: a really bad silhouette of Elvis and a long description of the event of June 24, 1977.

Roadside America is one of my favorite resources because, literally, this plaque is on the corner of a car dealership. I mean, they actually keep it up and it's not as difficult to find as you might think given it's obscure history, but the gas station where this fight took place is long gone. 

From there, we drove past a gold Civil War Statue, but did not stop for a photo op because it wasn't really worth a detour. If you follow the link, you can decide for yourself. Then, we checked out the scrap metal birds (picture above) which were ABSOLUTELY worth the detour. 

By the time we were finished with all that, we were able to check into our hotel room and take a short nap. When it was time for dinner, we briefly thought we wanted Japanese fast food, but it turned out that fast food is always kind of gross no matter which country of origin. So, Mason and I headed to State Street (Shawn opted to eat some of the not-great food to save her arthritic knees.) I think it was just as well that we left Shawn at the hotel, because Mason and I ended up being storm chasers when the TORNADO SIRENS went off. Luckily, that was after we ate at a really wonderful Taiwanese place, and were headed back to the car. As the sirens were wailing and our phones were yelling at us to shelter in place, we sat in a the car parking ramp for a long time trying to judge just how green the sky was and whether or not it was smarter to go or stay. But, after the second call from Shawn, who was worried sick, of course, we decided to make a break for it. We timed it between bursts of storm, but it was pretty harrowing. There were branches down and whatnot, but other than very threatening skies we never saw (or heard) anything truly scary, but it was still freaky, you know? Not going to lie. This will be an adventure we'll talk about for awhile.

Back at the hotel, we sat in an interior hallway with a bunch of other Midwesterners. The tourists were all outside watching the storm. 

Today, we struck out for LaCrosse to visit my dad the day after his 83rd birthday. But, we got up early enough so that we could be at the Deke Slayton Bicycle and Space Museum around when it opened at 10 am. 

Deke!
Deke Slayton statue (me for scale.)

I absolutely LOVED this museum. The bicycles and Deke really aren't connected in anyway that is obvious in the exhibit, but both stories are told well in their own way. There's a TON of astronaut memorabilia, specifically around Deke's story. And, if you're at all a fan of space, real life NASA stuff, and/or For All Mankind, this is an absolute must of of detour.  It's a very unassuming little museum, tucked into the top floor of a historical Masonic Hall. Likewise, Sparta is a surprisingly lovely town--given how many Trump signs we saw in the other small Wisconsin towns we tried to visit for these kinds of things. 10/10 would recommend. 

 In LaCrosse, we had a great visit with my folks and got to have the traditional poppyseed cake for my dad's birthday and a lunch out at Rudy's Drive-In. (And, yes, our food was delivered by a young women on roller skates!)

Now we are home with a pizza delivery on the way. I'm just relieved to not be in a car anymore. Though we could not have asked for better driving conditions along Scenic Highway 61
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 Shawn shows off her real life Tetris skillz in a storage locker.
Image: Shawn shows off her real life Tetris skillz in a storage locker.

Today was the unfun day. We had to help Mason pack up his apartment/dorm and somehow get it into a storage space that he was sharing with... a half dozen others? A lot. So many that the woman who organized it was sweating that it wasn't actually all going to work. Luckily, we had a secret weapon: Shawn Rounds.

We started around 9:30am and Mason is only just finishing with everyone now (at 6:30 pm.) 

But, it's done, and everyone is in.

A moving out day miracle.
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 Mason has left the building.

This morning was like old times. All three of us were up before the crack of dawn and bundled into the car. I took Shawn to work first and then, instead of taking Mason to Washington Tech, like the old day, I took him and his backpack (and duffle bag) to the airport. Any minute now, he'll be winging his way back to school in Connecticut. 

We'll miss him.

Per my previous blog, one of the things we did this last weekend was go out to Tavern on Grand, as it will be shuttering some time this year (early June is what the papers said, I think.)  The place was packed, which was a little freaky for us, since we are still avoiding crowds as a general rule and masking in most public places. We decided we really wanted to do it, anyway, so we we masked as much as possible, and managed to have a decent night out. Hopefully, we did not tempt fate. Fingers crossed.

Otherwise, it was a quiet weekend around chez Morehouse. I'm still working on finishing up my gaudy Valentine's quilt. There is so much glitter, so many hearts. I will be surprised if anyone wants this thing when it's finished. But, it is kinda cute? I should have it pieced fully by tonight, so perhaps there will be in-progress pictures tomorrow.

Tonight is going to be a long one. Shawn has a Friends of the Ramsey County Library board meeting tonight that she can't skip. As I am the family chauffer, I will be in attendance as well--just skulking around the stacks, looking for manga to read. I just finished a couple of first volumes. Last time I was stuck hanging out at the library, I was in the grown-up section and picked up Mieruko-chan by Izumi Tomoki, which... I'm uncertain why it ended up shelves with adult materials. The horror elements are reminiscent of Ito Junji, who somehow, always ends up shelved as adult. My biggest guess is that the art style is fairly ecchi? There's a lot of fan service--but, like, not all that much more than you might find in standard shounen manga, many of which are shelved in teens. I really wish I could be a fly on the wall for some of these decisions. I mean, I'd be fine with all the fan-service stuff being shelved as "adult"? or all as "teen"? But, be consistent is all I ask. I mean, maybe something very ADULT is on its way in this series, but volume one was very typical of "girl sees horror stuff."

The other manga I picked up and read the first volume of was a very strange series from the 1970s called Orochi by Umezu Kazuo, I say it's weird because our titular heroine doesn't appear to be human, and clearly has some supernatural powers? Like, she has the ability to reanimate the dead, but isn't aware enough of human nature to understand why this might be a VERY BAD IDEA. I picked up two volumes of this one and will probably try to read the second before I pass too much judgment on it as a series. The library had all five volumes, so if I decide I like it enough to continue, I can read the whole series.

I'm also still doing a few things for Cheryl Morgan at Wizard Tower, but given the Chengdu blow-up, I suspect she's not in a hurry to hear back from me.... https://www.cheryl-morgan.com/?p=29370
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 Mason's birthday torte
Image: Mason's birthday torte

Mason didn't like any of the pictures we took of him opening presents, so this is an image of the birthday torte (from Cafe Latte, for local folks) that Mason chose for himself. Yes, the candles are burning weird colors. I accidentally picked up a packet of trick candles. This is the second time I've managed to buy before reading the package. I will say that the odd little flame colors are WAY BETTER than the packet the I bought that would relight themselves. Mason was much younger when I accidentally bought those. They were not a fun surprise, as it seemed like he didn't get his birthday wish over and over (until we figured out what was going on!) 

Mason turned 20, y'all.

He's officially no longer a teenager. I don't usually get struck by the "wow, that means, I'm so much older than I think I am!" vibes, but 20 is a big number. Like, I remember being 20, you know?

He had a very low-key birthday. For some reason, Mason was not feeling this one. I'm not sure why. But, he normally has no trouble filling out his wish list and this year he was just very ?? all the way up to the end. We did go ahead and buy him things anyway, because Shawn overheard him tell one of his Discord friends that he does LIKE opening things on his birthday, but he just couldn't nail down what exactly he wanted. We got him a LEGO set, because every adult secretly wants another LEGO set, right? I got him a set of D&D dice in bisexual flag colors (as that's one of the ways in which he identifies) and a gift certificate for whatever he might like from Games by James at the Mall. We also gave him an informal note that said we'd take him book shopping to his favorite local, independent places (his preference!) and the amount that we'd be willing to cover. 

He wanted lunch from Bread & Chocolate and dinner out at Taste of India. We did both and had a marvelous time. People who are wondering what kind of person Mason is, he spent both meals when he was not chatting with us, with his nose pressed into a Terry Pratchett novel.  In fact, his big activity for his birthday seemed to be oscillating between reading and building LEGOs. So, yes, we have, in fact, raised the perfect child. :-) 

The only thing that has marred this celebration for me is that I found out that a dear friend of mine, who I'd lost touch with after she married and moved to a small, Minnesota town, died.  During the pandemic, she had a freak accident that had left her quadriplegic.  Apparently, she just slipped in her kitchen and hit a table on the way down? I guess this can happen?? But, that was sort of incredulously awful enough when it happened last year, but then I got a DM from a mutual friend on Saturday that she'd died. I don't know of what, but I presume from complications of her injury. I'm left feeling very guilty that when she sent out a plea on Facebook to reconnect with people, I... did that classic mistake... I thought I had more time!  And so I put off going to see her in the hospital, and, admittedly I was afraid of seeing her in such a different place. I have massive regret now. She'd been the kind of friend that we used to do breakfast at the Egg & I every Saturday for a few years when Shawn took Mason to his swimming lessons. And I just blanked her at the end. Fuck.
 
But, I guess I've learned an important lesson. Don't assume you have all the time in the world. And, maybe not worry so much if you're "a close enough friend" to visit. Just go.
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 It's snowing again and is basically supposed to do this all through the weekend. Luckily, I don't have very many places to go, so it's fine with me.  (Check in with me again, later, if Saint Paul doesn't declare a snow emergency and doesn't plow.) 

As for reading, I've been doing something new. Most of the time when I am working on a quilt, I'll watch something mindless--an anime or Critical Role. But, a friend of mine suggested trying a "book on tape," which of course isn't ON TAPE any more and which you can download as an audio file directly to your phone from the library. So, I tried Riot Baby by Tochi Onyebuchi and it was... tough. I mean, it's meant to be a hard, serious examination of the lives of Black men in America (with magical realism) and the baseline for that is pretty hardcore. On top of that, Onyebuchi doesn't pull his punches either, (nor should he.) HOWEVER, this was not the book for me at the moment. I have been craving low-stakes, light romps. Riot Baby was the polar opposite of that vibe. I hope to finish it some other time.

But, for now, I returned the book early. I am currently a couple of chapters into the audio book of Charlie Jane Ander's All The Birds in the Sky. I had bounced out of this book when I first took it out of the library the year it was up for all the awards, but, ironically, at that time I was not in the mood for light, fluffy magical stuff. I'm hoping that now is the right time for this book, finally. 

It's funny how this stuff works.

As for paper, I've been working my way through T. Kingfisher's Saints of Steel series and am currently on Book 3, Paladin's Hope. I deeply enjoy this series and will probably have to read everything in the World of the White Rat, as well. 

My D&D group, which normally meets tonight, is down two members due to dumb job stuff for one, and not-quite-recovered from illness for another. So, the rest of us decided it would be unfair to continue the main campaign with two players out and so we're doing a side campaign. I've long had two alternate characters ready to roll, as it were--Idyril's sister Ave and a figure known only to his family as "the bastard."

So, tonight I will be playing Idyril's sassy sister, Ave. The person all of his angst-filled letters have been sent to. I'm kind of unreasonably excited about this? I have been waiting to unveil her, but of course, I never wanted Idyril to have to DIE so that I could play her. I will try not to be a boring RPGer and talk too much about her here on the blog. Let's just say my favorite thing is that she's a monk and her spymastering family wanted her to chose "the way of the shadow" (think: ninja assassin) but she's a Drunken Master (like Jackie Chan, in the movie of the same name.) 

The only other fun thing of note that I shall mention about her is that because she's a Drunken Master, she carries brewers supplies. I've decided that due to this, she has access to brewer's yeast, which means that tonight, instead of the usual cookies that I bring, I'm making a loaf of cinnamon bread.

That should be fun.

Mason is coming home for Spring Break this Friday. He'll arrive to snow, but I think, so long as planes are not delayed and such, that will make him happy. He often complains that Connecticut doesn't understand Real Winter. My son is totally That One Kid in Flip-Flops in 40 degree weather. 

I think that's all the news fit to print. What are y'all reading or consuming lately of interest?

Sea Quilt

Jul. 23rd, 2022 07:54 am
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 I don't think I've posted any pictures of my newest quilt project. I've been making a crazy quilt for Mason.  Ever since he was very small, Mason has had a fascination with the ocean. Yes, we live in Minnesota and he had only seen the ocean in videos (he used to watch Blue Planet on repeat, especially the episode on the darkest, deepest parts of the ocean,) until a few years ago when we went to visit Los Angeles. Now, of course, he lives with in 20 minutes of the Atlantic. 

I swear, stuff like this makes me want to believe in past lives.

But, at any rate, here's my crazy quilt. 

Full quilt, so far. Yes, that is an eyeball in the center.
Image: Full quilt, so far. Yes, that is an eyeball in the center.

Angler Fish fabric!
Image: Angler Fish fabric!

Sharks! Silly sharks and serious hammerheads....
Image: SHARKS! Silly sharks, great whites, and hammerheads....

I got a lot of the very fun fabrics from Spoonflower. I will tell you that if you shop there the fabrics are printed onto cotton and what not, so they are very stiff and very one-sided. Also, the company is really aggressive in its advertisement. So, be warned. HOWEVER, they really do have some amazingly fun fabrics that you will probably never see anywhere else.
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I had been most looking forward to today. We had Mason with us and the on stop I was SURE we would all deeply enjoy was Centralia, Pennsylvania. If you know this town at all, it's probably through the video game "Silent Hill," which took the idea of what happened in real life Centralia and expanded it. So what happened in real life? A garbage fire ended up igniting a coal vein... the ground underneath the town has been burning ever since. It will apparently burn for many, many more years yet before the coal is depleted.

There wasn't much to take pictures of, thought I did snag one of the Orthodox Church that stands watch over the remains of the town.

The church near Centralia
The Centralia Orthodox Church.

But, there really is almost nothing to see. A couple of years ago, someone covered "graffiti road" with dirt, probably to discourage tourists like me and my family: https://allthatsinteresting.com/centralia-pa

Plus, my family and I probably should have eaten before we tried to find Centralia. We get notoriously bitchy if we don't eat by a time, and we missed an opportunity to grab a sandwich and so by the sixth time that I was turning around on a tiny, narrow highway there may have been some yelling... which was not at all how I wanted this particular leg of the trip to be. I had really hoped we'd get out of the car and wander around, but we ended up turning around so many times that by the time we ran into some other people on one of the side road who were also exploring the ex-town, we were all so fried that we never even got out to stretch our legs.

:-(

But, we made up for it by finding a spectacular waterfall outside of Clarion, PA, called Rapp Run Falls

Rapp Run Falls
Image: The falls

Rapp Run
Image: Rapp Run River, looking like something out of Middle Earth

The other thing that amused us today were the Pennsylvania mile markers. Apparently, they mark every tenth of a mile and they have never heard of reducing factions, so there were 1/10, 2/10 (instead of 1/5), 3/10, 4/10 (instead of 2/5ths) and the one that drove me insane, 5/10th... I mean, okay, for consistency I get maybe doing everything else as tenths, but why not mark the half mile as HALF MILE?? 

Can you tell we were pretty bored of driving?



It was a long day, but we are safely back in Youngstown, OH again. Having liked out hotel so much the first time around, we simply booked it again for the return trip.

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 the book barn
Image: The Book Barn in Niantic, CT

The Book Barn in Niantic was pretty much everything I ever wanted from a used bookstore. They even had cats (and goats.) I mean, I will admit that I kind of hate driving in New England because the streets are narrow and if the speed limit is posted at 35, all the drivers read that backwards and drive 53 and THEN also slam on their breaks when they need to make a sudden turn. It's terrifying. However, it was worth the harrowing driving to make our way EAST to Niantic, CT to see the many versions of the Book Barn. We stopped in downtown first because it was where the science fiction was located (as well as the other genre books) and then we headed to the main sight, which is kind of a book wonderland.

book barn 2
Image: yet another barn/outbuilding with books in it

gargoyle
Image: a secret garden at the Book Barn (complete with koi pond.)

"Barn" Cat
Image: "Barn" cat on the pavement. The Book Barn has five (?) cats. We saw three.

troublemakers
Image: book section reads, "Radicals, Anarchists, and Other Troublemakers."

We spent several hours here before driving a little further down the coast to a restaurant called "Skippy's" where Shawn had heard they had good lobster rolls. Lobster rolls are one of those legendary things that Shawn had been reading about forever and really, really wanted to try. In fact, her great regret last time we made it out to Connecticut to drop Mason off in the fall was that we never stopped to have one. So, this time, we came prepare. She'd read up on the places to go and the fact that Connecticut lobster rolls are special. In Connecticut you have lobster rolls hot, slathered in hot butter, on a toasted bun. Apparently, (she says uncertainly, as she is a Midwesterner bred and born,) other places lobster rolls are served cold, with mayo. 

But, we really enjoyed the Connecticut version!.


A lobster roll, sweet potato fries, and coleslaw
Image: A lobster roll, sweet potato fries, and coleslaw

MMMMMMM, so good!  I am determined to try the cold version at some point, but I am unsure how anything can compare.

Our last stop was Hammonasset Beach State Park. Shawn and I had been there before, but this was Mason's first time. He's seen the Atlantic before, but I'm not sure he'd dipped his toes into it before. Those of you who have not been following me for very long may not know that my son used to dream of being a marine biologist. He got the ocean bug, I think, by watching Blue Planet as a small, but it is honestly stuff like this that make me believe in past lives. There are so many stories I could tell on this child, but just know this--this is the young person who, at the age of six, came running down to the landing when he was supposed to be asleep wailing so much that I thought he must have injured himself saying, "Mama, Ima, mama, ima!" (I am ima, Shawn is mama,) and when I ran to comfort him, he wept into my arms, "Mama, ima, megalodon is extinct!" 

I was only able to comfort him by saying that while, yes, this was true, there were still a lot of smaller sharks still around. 

So, he LOVES the ocean.

Thus, I was surprised when Mason was initially kind of meh about the beach. I suspect some of it had to do with the fact that it was bit crowded. There were a ton of people at the beach, despite the overcast day and fog. Mason likes his alone time with nature. But, some people started shouting about jellyfish and so I went to look and managed to coax him into the water. After seeing the jellyfish floating in the surf as well as spotting a hermit crab shuffling long on the ocean floor, he got into it.

Mason inspecting the shallows
Image: Mason inspecting the shallows for signs of marine life

I had a lot of encounters with sea life, myself. I am often nibbled on when I go to lakes by sunfish and the like, but I did not expect to also be tasty to whatever small fry hang around near the shorelines of the ocean!  But I got nipped by some small fish that I could see, plus a little ghost shrimp briefly landed on my foot as I was leaving for the shore (I shook the little guy back into the water safely.) 

We ended up having quite a lot of fun despite the weather. 

Then we drove a few miles and checked into out hotel. Time to settle in with a few of the many books we bought at the Book Barn!  'Night all!
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 Mason and Shawn walking towards the library
My family walking towards one of the Wesleyan Libraries (Mason's favorite,) Olin.

Today was not a day for the road. We did travel the very short distance from where we ended up staying last night (Metamoras, PA) to Middletown, CT, but it only took us a couple of hours. We arrived in plenty of time for Shawn to do some of her packing miracles to save Mason a bit of space in the storage unit that he and a couple of his friends rented together for the summer. But, otherwise, our job was to offer assistance and/or stay out of the way. We mostly did the latter, as it happened, as he and his colleagues had everything under control. Our big job was to make sure that all of the books Mason wanted to bring home would, in fact, fit in the car. (THAT was a challenge.)

The weather looks great in the photo, but it was warmish here and weirdly humid (ocean air???) 

The library pictured above, Olin, is where Mason has one of his two work study jobs, as circulation staff at their government records collection. He showed us the stacks and his private fiefdom of books deep in the bowels of the library (very cool, honestly.) His mother, the State Archivist of Minnesota, was well impressed. Me, I just love any place that smells of old books and red rot.

Tomorrow, we are going to have more fun adventures to post about as we will be doing the same again, only in reverse. Shawn picked up a few books about fun roadside sites at the Wesleyan Bookstore, so I'm going to be doing some extra reading tonight. We already have several stops planned and we are not intending to even try to leave this state tomorrow. This is, after all, a big chance for us to explore this state that Mason is making his home for the next three years. 

Hope you all are safe and dry! See you after more hours on the road tomorrow!
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 Shawn and I have no plans, however. Nothing super-duper romantic, at any rate. I think our big plan is to maybe finally sit down and watch a documentary about the local Co-op Wars, which we've been meaning to do since forever.

Otherwise, this weekend was taken up largely by a visit to meet my GRAND-nephew, Fredrick. He's the 3 month year old baby of Shawn's brother's son, Jon. I had made a quilt for him some time ago, and so we wanted not only to deliver that and a collection of Winnie-the-Pooh books, but also to see how Jon and his wife are doing with the new arrival. I will tell you that seeing a three month old brought back a lot of memories from those early days, staying home with Mason. (In case you are wondering, yes, we did each take a rapid, at-home COVID test before heading over.)

Speaking of, we got a chance to Zoom with Mason earlier on Sunday and he continues to do well. He's facilitating a writers' group for Writers' Block, his dorm, and he's very excited about that. This week is also his first week having office hours for the environmental studies class that he's a TA for, so I'm hoping we'll hear later how all that went. He told us a very funny story about how the Writers' Block's usual "dumpling day" turned into a bit of a disaster, as the smoke alarms went off (there was no fire, only low oil in the frying pan that caused a lot of smoke,) they had to evacuate, of course, and the ENTIRE Middletown fire department arrived to shut off the alarm, etc. I suspect this is a story that he will be telling for years to come, honestly. 

One really nice thing that happened is that I got some surprise money in the mail. A person that I did some guest lecturing for a LONG time ago, out of the blue, dropped me a VISA gift card for fifty bucks. This was totally a gig I thought I was volunteering for, so that was a lovely (and very much welcome, though not at all expected) surprise. I have been happily using it to supplement my caffeine addiction. It will no doubt be emptied in a matter of days since I'm very much in the mode of, "COFFEE ON ME, EVERYONE!" 

I spent Saturday working on quilts. Shawn has discovered the joy of "crumb" quilting on the sewing machine, so while she was playing with that, I continued working on the final border for a quilt I am making for [personal profile] rachelmanija ... I am pretty sure at this point that the quilt is much larger than she wanted, but I'm committed now. The border is quit lovely, so....

Anyway. that's kind of all I know. I didn't go on any HeyGo tours this past week, though I am scheduled for Osaka tonight, if I decide to go. How've y'all been? What are you up to?
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 The view of Minnesota Lock and Dam #1 (Mississippi River) from the Minnehaha Dog Park.
Image: The view of Minnesota Lock and Dam #1 (Mississippi River) from the Minnehaha Dog Park.

I went walking with some friends of mine early Saturday morning at the Minnehaha Dog Park. Not having a dog myself, I had only ever been there as a visitor once or twice before. It's actually quite lovely, if you are cool with random doggos bounding up to you on occasion to check you out (which I more than am.) 

The sky-blue asters were blooming.
A flower growing on the banks of the Mississippi that I initially thought was a fleasbane, but is actually called sky-blue aster.
Image: A flower growing on the banks of the Mississippi that I initially thought was called fleabane, but is actually "sky-blue aster."

To be fair to me, fleabane is in the aster family, and t's kind of a shame that these aren't fleabane, because fleabane does (to some varying degree of efficacy, which is to say almost none) repel fleas. Obviously, whether or not it actually works, fleabane seems like the perfect flower/weed to encourage in a dog park, doesn't it?  But, these, I'm fairly certain, are actually sky-blue asters, so there you go. They were everywhere along the sandy banks of the Mississippi. One of the few natives in bloom in the dog park. 

Anyway, it was a lovely walk followed by donuts and coffee shared with new friends, whom Shawn and I met at a backyard concert held by the neighbors-across-the-street. Shawn declined to go on the hike with us, being far more "indoorsy.". She stayed home and finished up a few rugs on the loom. 

But, Shawn and I went for our own neighborhood stroll on Sunday. During the height of the heavy lockdown part of the pandemic, Shawn and I used to go on neighborhood walks in St. Paul regularly. I started photographing some of the cool architectural details / nifty houses that I came across, and I posted them on Facebook. I did the same on Sunday, which you can feel free to check out, if we are Facebook friends, otherwise I will simply share this one very TERRIFYING bit of sidewalk poetry that we came across. 

"She was steward
of the smallest things: pair of dead bees in the windowsill
Santa ring, cluster of elm seeds in their felted cells."

sidewalk poem

Shawn and I read this together silently and then I turned to Shawn and said, "IS SHE SATAN?? MAYBE A SERIAL KILLER??"

The weekend was otherwise quite lovely. I was stepping into a NPC role in my monthly RPG for a single session, so I spent an inordinate amount of time reviewing that character's interactions in the session logs so that I could do him justice. It was really valuable for a number of reasons, not the least of which I was reminded of "the story so far" much further back than I normally re-read since I wanted to follow him since his introduction. I can't speak for my fellow players, but I had an especially good time. It was kind of fun/illuminating to step into his point of view on all sorts of levels. 

We also got a chance to catch up with Mason on Saturday night for a brief Zoom call. He seems to be doing very well--getting involved in various clubs like the sustainable farm (run by a bunch of anarchists, apparently, who make every decision by consensus) and the Labor Socialists. So, you know, seeping in that bastion of left-wing politics, as required. :-) He's made several new friends, so I'm very proud of my extroverted introvert. Mason is the kind of introvert who isn't shy, per se, he just gets DONE with people after a certain amount of time and prefers to have is quiet time when he needs it by himself. He recharges alone, reading, etc. But, if pushed he can do public speaking, friend-making etc.  He told us that his strategy was to find a very extrovert friend who collected people and then he could hang out with all of the extrovert's friends and they would at least have her in common. Clever boy!

He also got a work study job in Wesleyan's library doing archival processing of government records, which is only funny because I have been an archival processor when I worked at the Minnesota Historical Society, and, of course, his mom/Shawn is the State Archivist of Minnesota who deals exclusively with government records. So, he knew all the lingo going in. 

So, that was gratifying to hear. He seems at least to be flapping furiously post being kicked out the nest and that is the very best one can hope for as a parent, IMHO.

The only other big news to report is that I've scheduled my COVID vaccine booster for next Monday. Once again, I must thank my fat ass for saving my ass. I would not qualify if the doctors didn't consider me obese. 
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 My nightmare... or the name of my son's interest house.
Image: My nightmare... AND the name of my son's interest house.

I wonder how many other Wesleyan parents saw this and had a chill run down their spine. I almost stood in front of it and screamed, "NOOOO! I have books due at the end of the year!!"

But, I decided to spare Mason my melodrama. 

I'm so adult. 

Also, it decided to rain buckets on us. Apparently, this was the tail end of Ida? I don't understand hurricanes, of course, being a Midwesterner. However, we did get quite wet moving things in. The dorm is actually pretty decent for what it is--a block building that has housed a lot of students over the years. Mason really lucked out, however, in that he got a corner room (he only shares one wall with another person) and he got one of the giant windows.  He'll have lots of natural light and air. 

Of course, the first thing we brought in and unpacked were his books.

Mason, proud, in front of his newly unpacked books
Image: Mason, proud, in front of his newly unpacked books. 

There were a bunch of activities that they wanted us parents to do after moving in, but the downpour made us change our minds. We did a little walking around campus, had the lunch provided us at the cafeteria, and then headed back to the hotel.

Wesleyan Library

We might have hung around, except that our car decided to make a very unpleasant grinding noise somewhere in Massachusetts a few days ago, and so I was anxious to see if we could find a repair shop. The sound started in the Catskills and so I was fairly concerned that we might be slipping our transmission or something EXPENSIVE. The guys at the shop were very New England and so I got along with them like a house on fire. We yelled good-naturally at each other for awhile and they took a look at the car and, a few hours later, we were back on the road. Ironically the part they replaced is guaranteed for 2,000 miles. WHICH IS ALMOST EXACTLY THE DISTANCE WE'VE TRAVELLED. So, you know, I guess it's not surprising we needed a new one? 

The only other stresser is, of course, the eldest. We got a call late at night last night because our cat sitter had not seen Piggy in 48 hours. I listed a few favorite hiding places and she was found, alive. I... was kind of surprised at that last part, since I'd had a dream in Madison (48 hours or so ago!) that Ms. Piggy had tapped at my side of the bed like she does to ask for a lift up.  In my dream state, I had the strongest impression of lifting her on to the hotel bed, telling Shawn that Piggy was with us, and then falling asleep (in my dream!) to the sound of her purrs. Just now, while we were eating Shawn felt a visit, too, another one of her signature tap-taps. I'll be surprised if she DOESN'T pass while we're away. 

I feel bad for our cat sitter, but I tried to explain on the phone that the reason the other cats weren't leading her to Piggy was because death isn't an emergency, or a sickness, or wrong. It's just what happens to old cats.  It's so hard not to think of death as a crisis, but it really isn't? It's natural? But, I also understand why the cat sitter would be beside herself, even though we were very clear in our email to her that we expected this to happen and even left instructions on what to do with the body, if she did. 

But, apparently, she's hanging on?

I'm not quite sure what to hope for--that she still be with us by the time we come back or that she just passes easily while we're away.  

We all had a good cry about her last night, at any rate. Even Mason, because he was still with us then. 

Now, now he's off beginning a new phase in his life.


walking to the future

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 Today we drove from Valparaiso, Indiana, to almost Buffalo, NY. Shawn took a picture in each state for us.  To be fair, they are almost indistinguishable from one another. 

We started the trip in Indiana....

The exciting Indiana Interstate
Image: The exciting Indiana Interstate

Then, we were in Ohio for what felt like FOREVER.
The exciting view of the Ohio Interstate
Image: The exciting view of the Ohio Interstate

We cut through a very short part of Pennsylvania, near Erie. Basically we were on I-90 the whole way.

The exciting view of the Pennsylvania Interstate
Image: The exciting view of the Pennsylvania Interstate

Then, finally, NEW YORK STATE....which is where we are now, just outside of Buffalo.

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Image: the exciting view of the New York Interstate

That's a lot of road, but we are almost there. Another six hours of driving tomorrow. 
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 I don't know if I hate the whole state of Indiana, but ValParasio has never, in all the years we have visited Shawn step mother here, grown on me.  

But, you know, after today, we probably won't be back. 

Ah, so our trip so far!  

Shawn did an amazing job packing up our car on Saturday morning. We then travelled only two and a half hours to LaCrosse, Wisconsin, to visit with my folks.  We had a lovely meal and chatted a bit and then headed to Madison, Wisconsin. We stayed at a hotel in Monona? It seemed to be a little suburbish neighborhood. There were sandhill cranes, just wandering around. I tried to get a nice shot of them, but they were easily spooked and my phone's telephoto is kind of crap. When Mason and I went off to find takeaway, we saw a woodchuck? It was a big boi rodent, at any rate, on someone's lawn. 

The next day, we drove through Chicago to ValParaiso, Indiana. Again, not a super long jag of this trip, but we figured that we might as well see Mason's grandparents as we take him off to university. We had a nice diner at Shawn's stepsister's place and got to see Grandma Margaret at her new nursing home digs as well as at Karen's. 

We are heading from here (IN) to Buffalo, New York. Wish us luck. It's going to be a long day--Google thinks seven hours, so we are expecting nine or ten. Once we're in Buffalo, we will zip down to Middletown, Connecticut for Mason's move-in day. Shawn and I are planning to check out the area a bit and then start the long trek back!

Hopefully, I will get better pictures than a blurry pair of sandhill cranes at some point!
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 All the stuff coming with Mason to Wesleyan...
Image: All the stuff coming with Mason to Wesleyan... minus two full boxes of books and so much more.

We leave for our cross-country trip to Middletown, Connecticut, tomorrow morning. We will be on the road for four days, making various stops to see the grand folks along the way. Then, we will drop our child off... and leave for home without him.

That's going to be weird. 

I will have my laptop with me and wifi at the various hotels we'll be stopping at along the road, so I will probably document some of this massive road trip in some form or another. I know I keep talking about all this, but it's kind of a momentous occasion! Plus, how could I resist a shot where there is an actual envelope labeled "Wesleyan 2021"??
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 I got up early this morning to take the car in for its check-up. We are T-2 days for launch. I just got the call and they are going to do their best to fix our air-conditioning. They already did an oil change and are replacing and rotating tires, and giving me new front brakes. The bill will be hefty and Shawn won't like it, but the car will definitely be road worthy after that. 

One of the reasons I picked this particular auto place--besides the recommendations from friends, of course--was because it's on a fairly easy bus/train line from me. Unfortunately, the bus runs straight down Snelling (out-of-town friends, just think major thoroughfare.) Normally, this makes the trip fast.  But, I kind of forgot that today is the first day of the Great Minnesota Super Spreader, aka the State Fair, which is right on Snelling.  The bus crawled almost as much as my skin, as I watched all those maskless people amassing. You can feel free to yell at me about how outdoor events are safer, but I will remind you that they could literally track the explosion of cases from Sturgis. And, like Sturgis, the main event might be outdoors, but there are going to be indoorish places to buy beer and food and I don't know? Are the craft barns open? I did see a giant pumpkin being delivered, so I can only imagine so.

A big enough viral load and we all get overwhelmed....

I mean, can I point fingers? Only if I remember that most of them are pointing back at me. We are choosing to travel across the country to deliver our child to a university. At least Wesleyan is requiring proof of vaccination and masks indoors. I have no idea how that works in a dorm, but I presume you just kind of have to have your floormates as a pod. I don't know. That's the crazy, risky part. We are trying to mitigate what we can. I'm grateful a booster is coming. And, selfishly, even though Mason is lucky enough to be one of those people who did FINE with distance learning, I would like him to have the in-person experience, particularly at the university level. 

The other thing that has me stressed is our eldest cat, Ms. Piggy. She's 21. Until a couple of days ago, however, you really would not know it. She's had the Katherine Hepburn head shake going on for some time, so you'd know she was OLD, but she could hop up and move around like a kitten. In the last couple of days, she's been having a lot of trouble moving.  She's still eating and drinking like a champ. She's been trying to make it to the box, but last night she just let loose on the floor next to the box right during dinner. We have a piddle pad? But, it's clear her hips are just not up to even the shallowest jump right now. 

We have cat sitter coming to live-in while we're away, which makes me feel somewhat better. This person has cared for Piggy before, but I am going to need to write an addendum pre-absolving the cat sitter of any guilt should Piggy pass while we're away. I mean, she's a tough old lady? But, did I mention that she's TWENTY-ONE??

Yeah. 

Mason is mostly packed. I feel pretty good about the amount he's bringing. Shawn joined the Wesleyan parents Facebook page and there are people trying to send PALLETTES of stuff. We also watched our across the street neighbor load up a U-Haul for his kid. We're going to have a stuffed trunk? But, that seems reasonable in comparison, I think. I mentioned that he's getting a single, so that's kind of nice. He can decorate however he wants. 

His best local friend showed up last night in her car and they went off for ice cream together. She's going to Seattle, and him to Middletown,. Connecticut. They're going to be an entire country apart. 

On the other hand, this is the big moment that parenting is all about as far as I'm concerned. His own life begins! I have to be honest, I have jettisoned a lot of my memories of high school. I had one friend that I still sometimes miss, but I attempted to visit her at her college during one of my breaks and... it was awful, partly because I came head to head with the fact that I had a massive crush on her and the fact that she was in a serious relationship with a guy just about broke me. I came out only a few months later. She ghosted me after that... and that was probably actually a reasonable response in retrospect. I was deeply hurt at the time, of course. She never goes back to high school reunions and neither do I. I mean, I went back to my five year? Mostly because I'm an asshole and wanted to come out to everyone. I brought Shawn. People didn't recognize me with my hair short and with no make-up. It was actually kind of fun. No regrets. 

So, I mean, for me, the friends I made in college were the ones that lasted? 

I hope its the same with Mason.

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