You Were a Good Dad

[lydamorehouse]

Yesterday afternoon Shawn's dad died. Of course this was a deeply emotional moment for Shawn, but later that evening when she called we managed to make ourselves laugh. We were talking about how to try to explain all this to Mason and Shawn piped up with, "Gucci, gucci, you were a good dad."

It was a laugh until you cry kind of moment.

Comments

[jenwrites.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. At least you all had a little time to prepare.

[kellymccullough.livejournal.com]

First, my condolences. I really feel for you both, especially at the moment We've had a couple of those laugh moments this last week as well. Today as we were going into the Cremation Society to pick up my grandmother's ashes we discovered that the building has smoked glass doors and the only thing visible from the outside is the flames in the fireplace. Somehow, it seemed inappropriate (or entirely too appropriate) for the Cremation Society's first visible feature to be fire.

[magentamn.livejournal.com]

My condolences to both of you.

[ladylahatiel.livejournal.com]

You all have my sympathy and well-wishes and will be in my thoughts today.

[planetalyx.livejournal.com]

There's so little one can say at such times, but you're all in my thoughts.

[michaeldthomas.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. You and your family are in our thoughts.

[drewan.livejournal.com]

Condolences from my family to yours. I'm glad that Shawn was able to find a moment for laughter.

[cynthia1960.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry for your family's loss, and will keep all of you in my thoughts. That was a great parting line to remember Shawn's dad by.

[mindyklasky.livejournal.com]

Condolences to all your family. I'm glad that you had a chance to say goodbye, recently.

[swords-and-pens.livejournal.com]

Deepest condolences. I'm so glad you were all able to get down and spend time with him before the end. That helps a lot in the long run.

[tiernsshadow.livejournal.com]

My condolences to you and your family. I hope it goes well explaining things to Mason.

[holy-toledo.livejournal.com]

Hi Lyda,

Sorry to hear about Shawn's dad. I know this is going to be a hard time for your family, and I hope there's a lot of laughter and memories to help you through.

-Mel

[jiawen]

I wish I could think of something useful to say. You and Shawn and Mason have my sympathy.

I'm so sorry about Shawn's dad.

[plaidder.livejournal.com]

Tell Shawn she is in our thoughts along with you and Mason.

And you laugh, but now is probably a time when having helped Mason find ways to understand and accept death will pay off for all three of you.

The Plaid Adder

[rarelylynne.livejournal.com]

Please accept my condolences. Y'all are in my thoughts.

[sg1scribe.livejournal.com]

So sorry to hear about Shawn's dad. My thoughts are with you all. I'm glad you were able to laugh. I remember my sister and I giggling over something similar just after my mother passed away. We stopped, looked at each other, and then my sister said, "You know what, I think she'd have wanted us to laugh as well as cry." So we did.

Hugs to you both - and to Mason.

[skinismy13.livejournal.com]

all my love to you and your family
-allie

[norafleischer.livejournal.com]

We're so sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family are in our thoughts.

[xochiquetzl]

I'm so sorry.

[jmward14.livejournal.com]

Sincere condolences to you both. There are going to be a lot of laugh 'til you cry moments. Best healing wishes, Jean Marie

[shenjanno.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear about shawn's dad. And after working in a cemetary so long, I've found that laughter is always the best medicine, even if its sad laughter.

[deepforestowl.livejournal.com]

My condolences. I somehow missed this post earlier for which I apologize.

[bcholmes.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm so sorry.

[auriaephiala.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry.

When my mother died after a long illness, I was devastated. It doesn't seem to matter how well you're prepared, it's still a shock.

Thinking of all of you.

[muneraven.livejournal.com]

If you think it will be any comfort, tell Shawn that, eventually, the pain of losing a parent can feel a little less like being orphaned and a little more like that parent is still with you somehow. In little ways. In good ways. I still miss my Dad, but I feel him with me often, especially when I am parenting my own son and trying to emulate the love and patience my father always had for me.

[hutch0.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry, Lyda; I've been away and I didn't see this until just now. My condolences to you all.