Forty Years
Dec. 3rd, 2025 01:26 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lydamorehouse Like a lot of queer people, Shawn and I are sort of flexible about the day we call our anniversary. We both dated other people as we figured out our love and how the hell it was going to work. It was a messy time, but we were together as "roommates" in college since December of 1985--somewhere in there we both left our assigned roommates for each other, so it's kind of our U-Haul day. Or, as I sometimes like to joke, the day I moved in and forgot to ever move out.
So, yeah, if you do the math, we have been together a STAGGERING number of years.
We usually, officially, celebrate on the first of December, but this year a dear friend who comes for Friendsgiving arrived life-threateningly infected and so we spent that day with him at United Hospital. Someone else might say that our anniversary was "ruined," but that would be a lie. What would have ruined our anniversary is if our friend had died. So, you know, the hospital was right where we all needed to be! No regrets. None whatsoever.
But, I don't want forty years together to go unremarked. So, today I ordered some flowers for Shawn that I hope will be delivered to her office before she leaves for the day at 3:00 pm. I'm going to maybe make something special for dinner tonight. Who knows? But, hopefully, we can think back on that trip to Target for holiday gifts back in 1985 and feel like it was all worth it.
So, yeah, if you do the math, we have been together a STAGGERING number of years.
We usually, officially, celebrate on the first of December, but this year a dear friend who comes for Friendsgiving arrived life-threateningly infected and so we spent that day with him at United Hospital. Someone else might say that our anniversary was "ruined," but that would be a lie. What would have ruined our anniversary is if our friend had died. So, you know, the hospital was right where we all needed to be! No regrets. None whatsoever.
But, I don't want forty years together to go unremarked. So, today I ordered some flowers for Shawn that I hope will be delivered to her office before she leaves for the day at 3:00 pm. I'm going to maybe make something special for dinner tonight. Who knows? But, hopefully, we can think back on that trip to Target for holiday gifts back in 1985 and feel like it was all worth it.
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Date: 2025-12-10 07:20 pm (UTC)And, thanks! Forty years feels... longer than I've been alive, but clearly I was 18. It's just always surprising to me that I'm 58.
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Date: 2025-12-10 07:21 pm (UTC)Will you be able to join the ST:A game in January? WE MISSED YOU.
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Date: 2025-12-04 12:48 am (UTC)And a very happy fortiethish anniversary to you both.
David and I were very on-again, off-again for a while, so we just count from the wedding, being unfairly privileged to do so. Cam and I have about five anniversaries, I think, but picked one to celebrate. Eric is resistant to the tyranny of the Gregorian calendar, but we try to celebrate on the first new moon of February, because reasons.
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Date: 2025-12-10 07:22 pm (UTC)And, yes, John is back in Michigan, so I am hoping this means all is well? We have chatted since so it seems so.
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