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Ball in a box

Yesterday morning as we drove Mason to robotics kick-off, we all agreed that it was time to call for in-home euthanasia for Ms. Ball. I contacted "Lap of Love". Their receptionist took our information and we made an appointment for between 5 pm and 6 pm. Then, we spent the day, with Ms. Ball in our arms--taking turns sleeping with me, Shawn, and finally Mason when he came home. Right about at 4:45 pm, she struggled out of Mason's arms and made it half way across the living room floor and started having pained, labored breathing. It was clearly time. I started to get anxious that Ball would suffer, but the vet walked in right on time. Dr. Jessica gave Ms. Ball a sedative and took one look at Mason and intuitively asked him, "Would you like to hold her?" We all burst into tears because that was, of course, exactly right.

Dr. Jessica was very gentle and loving. We couldn't have asked for a better person to come to us. The only misstep was that she told us "Ms. Ball is in heaven" when she'd died, but I suspect Dr. Jessica thought that was okay because, at one point, Shawn was clearly praying. (How could she know Shawn was praying to the Goddess for a safe passage for Ball to the summer land?) And, anyway, heaven/summer land? It's close enough.

Ball being a ball

We'd made our own arrangement for cremation. Shawn found a place that does private, same day cremation for pets, called Pet Cremation Services of Minnesota. But, they were closed until the next day, so Ms. Ball spent the night in a tub, wrapped in her favorite purple towel, on the porch.

I will admit that gave me some strange dreams.

The cremation place was... well, as Mason said, they kind of lived up to a certain stereotype. We got there just as it opened and the guy was on the phone, so we stood there awkwardly in a room full of urns holding Ball's body in a plastic tub. He then ushered us in for paperwork and we took Ball back to the crematorium. The nice thing about this place is that you can choose to watch them put her in, which I did, if only out of morbid curiosity. The room looked a lot like you might expect, with two large units, only more industrial. This place was out in one of those business incubator lots in the suburbs. They were next to a cut glass studio and a Star Tribune distribution center. And, we were expecting to be able to wait an hour or so and take her back with us right away, but the guy said, "Oh, she's the first one today, so it'll take the ovens time to heat up. More like two hours? Maybe go grab a cup or coffee and go shopping or something?" WOW. Okay. I mean, bedside manner, much?

But, so we ended up going home. Mason's girlfriend's family texted to say they were bringing over hot dish (which is what Minnesotans do for funerals and grieving families.)

I went back after lunch (the hot dish was very cheesy potatoes) to pick up the box with Ms. Ball's cremains. As part of the standard price, we got a lovely box and a velvet bag that said, "We will meet again on the Rainbow Bridge."

Despite the weird bedside manner, I think this was the best option for us. I did very much appreciate that Ball was privately cremated and that it was same day. And, it's entirely possible that there was something about our demeanor that said that we'd had a lot of time to say goodbye to Ball and didn't need the funeral home persona--which was true. We've been grieving her this whole time and will continue to. And, as Shawn said, it's kind of like us to have some kind of absurd twist to the end.

cat on a chair

Gucci, gucci. We will miss you Ms. Ball, our mouser extraordinaire.

Date: 2019-01-07 01:51 am (UTC)
naomikritzer: (Default)
From: [personal profile] naomikritzer
I'm sorry. She was such a lovely, sweet cat.

Date: 2019-01-07 02:22 am (UTC)
strangesistas_writings: (Default)
From: [personal profile] strangesistas_writings
Awww I'm sorry. I know how much you loved your Ms. Ball.
Edited Date: 2019-01-07 02:22 am (UTC)

Date: 2019-01-07 04:16 am (UTC)
umadoshi: (ocean 01)
From: [personal profile] umadoshi
Rest well, sweet cat. ;_;

Date: 2019-01-07 05:48 am (UTC)
evilpettingz00: (Default)
From: [personal profile] evilpettingz00
Oh, no. I'm so sorry. :(

Date: 2019-01-07 06:26 am (UTC)
ryanf: (Default)
From: [personal profile] ryanf
((i'm sorry))

Date: 2019-01-07 08:25 pm (UTC)
witchymint: close up of Erica from Teen Wolf with text "this girl is a black eye" written on it (Default)
From: [personal profile] witchymint
I love that picture of her asleep, with a paw over her head. Such a sweet moment. I'm glad her passing was peaceful.

Date: 2019-01-08 07:30 pm (UTC)
offcntr: (maggie)
From: [personal profile] offcntr
Sending a prayer to Bast for her; warm thoughts for you...

Date: 2019-01-09 04:05 am (UTC)
opakele: (Raymond Trees)
From: [personal profile] opakele
Sleep well, Ms. Ball.

She was a beauty.

Date: 2019-01-17 09:38 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sauscony
I'm so sorry about Miss Ball. She was a beautiful cat.

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