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Gay marriage only just became legal and I already suck at it.
That's how I feel today, anyway.
The other day Shawn made me scream and back way quickly when she pulled out a wedding planner. The problem is, we're still trying to figure out what we want to do. Should we wait? The problem there, of course, is that my health insurance costs a lot of money per month, since I'm a individual, self-imployed. Shawn is already carrying family health insurance and adding me would cost nothing more than we're already paying for her and Mason to be covered. So, it makes sense to do something legal as soon as possible. But, it's not a simple matter of going to the courthouse here in Ramsey County. You have to book and hire a judge and it's not like they'll meet you there in the filing office. At that point, you might as well get your requist paperwork and use a minister. Once you're doing that, you might consider inviting family. Once family start coming, then you have to think about where you're going to do this and if you want a ceremony...
It's like that picture book, "If you give a mouse a cookie, he's going to want some milk..." until the whole house is wrecked.
So, now Shawn and I are thinking about maybe doing the wedding in August... and the reception too.
Or maybe not.
This is why weddings are for kids. I don't have the time or the patience for all of this. I just want health insurance and maybe some cake.
But when I talk like that Mason gets very upset. He knows Shawn and I love each other, but he views weddings as something special, something ROMANTIC. Of course, he's not paying for it, but I think he'd want us to pull out all the stops and do a fantastic venue like Como Conservatory and then rent some giant pavillion. Have the dress, the veil, Westminster Abbey... the horse drawn carriage... all of it.
I kind of want that too, if only for Mason and all our friends... but I WANT SOMEONE ELSE TO PAY FOR AND ORGANIZE IT.
sigh.
Also? Shawn nixed my idea that I could get married in my soul reaper cosplay outfit. I told her it was a military uniform, but she wasn't going for it. :-)
That's how I feel today, anyway.
The other day Shawn made me scream and back way quickly when she pulled out a wedding planner. The problem is, we're still trying to figure out what we want to do. Should we wait? The problem there, of course, is that my health insurance costs a lot of money per month, since I'm a individual, self-imployed. Shawn is already carrying family health insurance and adding me would cost nothing more than we're already paying for her and Mason to be covered. So, it makes sense to do something legal as soon as possible. But, it's not a simple matter of going to the courthouse here in Ramsey County. You have to book and hire a judge and it's not like they'll meet you there in the filing office. At that point, you might as well get your requist paperwork and use a minister. Once you're doing that, you might consider inviting family. Once family start coming, then you have to think about where you're going to do this and if you want a ceremony...
It's like that picture book, "If you give a mouse a cookie, he's going to want some milk..." until the whole house is wrecked.
So, now Shawn and I are thinking about maybe doing the wedding in August... and the reception too.
Or maybe not.
This is why weddings are for kids. I don't have the time or the patience for all of this. I just want health insurance and maybe some cake.
But when I talk like that Mason gets very upset. He knows Shawn and I love each other, but he views weddings as something special, something ROMANTIC. Of course, he's not paying for it, but I think he'd want us to pull out all the stops and do a fantastic venue like Como Conservatory and then rent some giant pavillion. Have the dress, the veil, Westminster Abbey... the horse drawn carriage... all of it.
I kind of want that too, if only for Mason and all our friends... but I WANT SOMEONE ELSE TO PAY FOR AND ORGANIZE IT.
sigh.
Also? Shawn nixed my idea that I could get married in my soul reaper cosplay outfit. I told her it was a military uniform, but she wasn't going for it. :-)