Thanks, that's exactly right.

I don't expect anyone to handle all of it perfectly all of the time. Just to meet us with a little kindness and a little adult. (<--that last one is especially hard, and I honestly do understand what it feels like to have been called out. I once triggered someone with a piece of fic that I didn't label appropriately, and it takes a lot not to respond to hurt with hurt. But you know what? If you step on someone's toe, you just need to start by saying "Oh, I'm sorry!")